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Off topic and probably inappropriate - getting married and I'm a virgin (male) Im concerned about my ability to last ahem. Is there any advice you can give me? Im asking here bec. I know you folk are

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Once you have sex, you'll realize that it's not as big of a deal as its hyped up to be. It's just one small aspect of a relationship. Obviously an important part, but there are lots of important parts to your relationship like respect, communication, affection, etc. The first time with any new partner is going to mean figuring out the other person's likes and dislikes and interpreting/understanding their response. Having had sex before with some other woman wouldn't really make you any "better" at having sex with your wife. Even if you lasted a really long time, it would still probably feel like everything happened really fast because it'll be emotional and overwhelming for her too. And then you can do it again and again and again and again and it will keep getting better. Congrats on making your first time be with someone you truly love! The emotional connection will mean more to her than anything that's happening physically with your bodies. But don't be afraid to look silly or laugh! It doesn't have to be so serious all the time, it's actually really fun. Go get em tiger! 😉

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@rolex: nowhere near 35 years, but I've been in five long-term relationships and have lived with three of those boyfriends. From my experience it is all about chemistry--I've had sex go stagnant because the relationship went stagnant. I have been with my current bf for two years now and it honestly still feels like we just met in terms of how exciting things are, both in our everyday lives and sexually. At the same time, we get along so well that he also feels like my best friend that I've known forever. You just have to be with the right person and don't get in your own head too much about things getting stale.

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best thread on fb today

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I would never marry a girl who I haven't slept with. Would you buy a car without ever test driving it?

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Thanks pwc 5 - we've been dating for a year and engaged for six months.. Getting married in September. being that we are both virgins we thought it would be a truly amazing emotional experience and we love each other to the point where we didn't feel like we had to have sex. Can't explain it. But yeah that's the story.. I feel much better now.. I'll eventually master it 😁

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Jackoff first

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Good luck enjoy getting to know one another I've been married for 35 years and we still enjoy sex and learn new things together 😎

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Is she also a virgin? Coming from a woman- don't worry about it first time. It's more about the moment. Enjoy it and make it about the connection. Then do it again like a porn star. Emotional and physically pleasing.

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@PwC 2- we've all heard that disgusting metaphor, but it doesn't make it easier to stomach. That's uncalled for and I'm sad for you that you don't understand love and marriage.

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Good for you OP. Don't be so nervous that you don't enjoy it. Try and let yourself be excited instead of apprehensive. No guy would be able to last long with that kind of build up, and I am 99% sure that any guy who claims otherwise is full of shit. When my ex and I got together, we talked beforehand and he was joking like listen, you know I'm only gonna last like 37 seconds right? It wasn't quite that quick but not more than double that and I had only good thoughts about him and that night. Have fun building up to it and spend a lot of time on that. I can't speak for every other woman in the world, but the foreplay is just as important to me and the thought of being nonstop penetrated for like ten minutes is extremely unappealing..

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My two cents.
1- jack off atleast two times.
2-take a hit, it would work like wake n bake.
3- give her oral for long so she gets her external orgasm n even if u screw up, it wouldn't be very obvious.

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Real people and Provide good advice

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Well it seems the consensus is you'll officially be OK when it comes time to smash your brides guts on the wedding night. Mazel tov!

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Proud of you both for saving yourselves before marriage 🙂

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OP is all grows up! We're all rooting for you!

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Lol im sure im not the only one that goes through this. I'm fine

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OP, yes. If it's your first time, it's gonna be hard as soon as she touches it 😉 As I said before, it's all in your head. Don't think too much. You gonna be alright

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Is it going to be her first time too? If so, stop worrying! If not, if she loves you enough to marry you she will know and understand its your first time. So, again, stop worrying!

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I'm a believer that the first time is always the worst time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself for the first go - enjoy the moment as much as you can and know you have the rest of your lives to get to know each other's bodies.

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Thanks guys, we are both virgins and don't expect much lol. I guess there's nothing to worry about

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