Off-topic Feeling a bit low and anxious today, I am 33 yrs old with history of miscarriage changed job to get some growth, stability and motivation
But there's constant pressure from everyone in the family, friends. it's not like I don't want to get pregnant but things have not been easy tried hard to come out of depression and move forward in my life hoping will be blessed with a baby too when time is right But constant questions bother me sometimes and dunno how to deal with everything :(

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What was the reason for miscarriage?
First u need to focus on mental as well as physical health. Once u r mentally prepared for baby u can start prenatals vitamins for 2-3 months to store the nutrients required for good egg quality and then can try.

Tbh tell your relatives that continuous followups won't make you pop kids. And they are the main reason you are so stressed. Let them shut up first. Then think calmly, if you wants kids or not. Having kids in today's world is not as great as it used to be. Extreme pressure, competition, lesser jobs, family drama, pollution, food laced with pesticides,cheating spouses, etc. The list goes on. Also, high probability of genetic disorder in later pregnancies are a big possibility. Please don't fall under pressure to have kids. It should a woman's personal choice as after popping the kid, the same relatives and friends (also the husband) will never provide you with a helping hand also. You will end up more stressed than ever before. Also, the same kids when they grow up, will very conveniently leave you and move to another country for higher studies or jobs, so don't think they will help you when you grow old. These are all lies that are fed to women.

Why should the expectation be even that kids would help parents for old age?
Kids should be had for ones own happiness and to take care of them not vice versa being one of the main reasons.
Not saying the kids will not have a feeling of taking care of the their parents, but the parents especially should not have such expectations which burden the kid.
Let the kid do what they want to do if that's going to foreign for studies.

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