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Hello guys,
I think because of wfh i am not able to make true friends in my org.
I see that while being in CTC race i really lost contact to folks who are my cllg mate as well as school mate.
Sometimes whenever I am free and i think of this thing i feel really lonely.
Any one with same feeling and how did the overcame it?
This sometimes I feel like it's a mood swings...
Even though i am a guy

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Disclamer: Long post alert; read along only if relevant to you at this point in life.
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I've seen myself lose so many friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances, favourite employees over time. It should hurt me every single time and badly. What I've realised over the years is this:
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Gratitude and service are powerful tools.
Make new friends. Give what you can for free - knowledge, time, advise, even money! Expect little. Be thankful for little you get. Gratitude, giving back, service, helping - these are primarily necessary for being satisfied at the end of your day. Satisfaction directly translates to Happiness and peace. Loneliness / feeling guilty / unhappiness will be addressed automatically. Remember, CTC will give you one of the means to be happy. But not happiness directly. Even after earning your dream number, you still need to make / create happiness. And people around you are an important asset for achieving it. They are important.
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The next powerful tool is Apology.
If you felt that you did wrong to someone, sometime, if you can, apologise. This clears the unnecessary clutter in your brain and give you that much more space.
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Another powerful tool is Forgiveness.
Like Apology, this tool let's you let go so much negativity in one sweep. If someone has done wrong to you, try to sit in one place and say out loud: i truly forgive you. Just this act will release do much of speed libido / psychic energy that suddenly, you will experience peace and bliss.
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Most of what I've told here may sound like philosophy or advise to the casual reader. But trust me that these are tenets for a successful life that you will learn in any advanced study, be it psychology, philosophy, science, arts and / or spirituality.
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Hope this helps 🙏

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Exactly in the same situation. Office colleagues can't be true friends always so just be careful. It's corporate world after all.

What you can try is to contact and speak to colleagues of school and colleges and ask sorry and continue conversations

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Well, it's ok to feel the way you are feeling. (Aren't guys allowed to feel this way?). Mingling with lost contacts requires effort. So start it slow. Call your friends, speak for a short while, discuss good old days when you plan a catch up, leave work discussions behind, book a court and go for playing badminton.
I am sure it'll help and please remember, it's ok to have mood swings as a human!

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Bro having experience of like 15 years in Sales (field sales) .. Married and having 2 kids too.. Ready to relocate (out of country bhi chalega) for next 15—20 years because expenses are there, over to it son is not enrolled in school from first lockdown.. Salary is the problem.. try and understand the power and need of money.. Sabko mukammal jahan nahi milta kahin jameen toh kahin aasman nahi milta.. 😶

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I agree with what ITA1 said.... I have very limited college friends still in touch after 10yrs of graduation and few of my neighborhood who are still close no matter which city we are in. One thing that works for me I initiate phone calls and messages. Just don't wait for others to call or message me.
Pick up the phone and speak. In this way you do rejuvenate the estranged relations. People do feel they are ignored, we all feel the same😀

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Yeah.. same happening with me.. we all are in same boat ⛵

Thank god I’m still in contact with some of my school and college mates.

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