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I am working from home since March 2020, Got married in Dec 2020..My wife may have thought that we will move to Pune after marriage but we are here in 2022 and I am still working from home..My office is still offering work from home for a long time may be but my wife is forcing me to move to Pune. How to convince her to stay at hometown only..PS. I live in a District not a village and I live with my parents.

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I understand your point. But there are many other issues with joint family dynamics. E.g.:
- Even a small decision has to go through the head of the family (your parents in your case), even for things like going out or buying something. And don't forget all these decisions often have the baggage of patriarchy and religious orthodoxy
- Privacy is Compromised
- She cannot cook what she wants and might have to strictly adhere to the rules of the family

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Vacation will help, look up a website called Travel Triangle. They offer competitive all in one honeymoon packages within India and abroad. It could spare you in the short term.

But this is not a long term solution. You can't go to vacation just to run away from your problems. If you've made a promise to her that you will move to Pune post marriage, you need to see that through. The longer you delay this, more it will strain your relationship and possibly irreparably. Avoid this at all costs.

I don't mean to judge nor is it my place, but I think the issue is with communication. If you spend more 1:1 time with her say in a vacation get to know her feelings, maybe you'll come to know her motivation in moving to a big city, just listen and keep an open mind. And I assure you it will be a very simple reason.

My two cents. Hope this helps!

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@CEMEX Thank you, I appreciate it 🙂

Let her live!
I know how you all must he forcing her to do all the work from cooking to cleaning.😰
Did you wanted a maid
why are you so brutal to her.
People like you have been making life of women in India miserable since ages.

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@SoftwareEngineer1 why you are judging him based on your preconceived notions. In a marriage both parties need to understand each other expectations and make adjustments accordingly. And why you are assuming they are brutal to her.

Just plan a work from vacation places for a month or two.

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Yes, vacations are always a good idea.

I would listen to her if I were you. Living with the in-laws and being stuck in a pandemic for two years takes a lot out of a person. She is your number 1 priority now and not your parents

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Think from her perspective. She is definitely not getting enough personal space as she staying with her in-laws.

Also, she might have to do household work apart from her office work.

Would you be fine with staying with her parents and also helping them with daily household chores?

Just to add..she don't do any outside job..she does the world's biggest job, Homemaker..

Can you compromise by moving out of your parents house, and getting your own place in your hometown? Maybe she just needs more space.

Is where you live now far away from Pune? I'm just trying to understand the logistics. I can understand both points of view.

Yes it's like 500km away..

Laude lag gaye bhai Tere toh

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