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I used to be a Chill and Calm Guy when I joined org. before COVID but now I am turned into Aggressive, Angry, Irritable guy ( Not Intensionally )

No one wants to talk to me nicely even my family...
any suggestions any help ?

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I think you need to converse your thoughts with a close friend, try talking with him/her the issue that you are facing. Just ask them what you are doing wrong. While talking to them also if you are agressive then surely you need to calm your mind either stat meditation or start exercising in gym or at home. It will help soothe you and also calm you, whenever you talk focus on what you are saying dont just abruptly say something based on your mood. Just try starting a hobby, indulge in various activities daily. and try to understand painpoints of family, friends instead of going agressive at them :).

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Try to get early morning ,i mean sharp 5am.
Then fresh up , i mean bath/ shower 🚿.
Then goto Siva temple by walk.
Do this one daily at least 30days.
I will become a happy person in this world.
Trust me.

Don't think like we are engineers , i can't believe God.

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But it can happen that the author is on call

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Most probably you may be deffiecient in vitamin d , go for morning walk get slight also to take vit d tablet

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Switch..

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Rightly said..its work for me.

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I also went through this kind of mental state where I used to yell at everyone even for a slight disappointment.

You can do the below things to overcome :
1. Do not talk for some days(minimum o one week) unless for basic things or for your daily needs. Do not talk especially on your personal matters with family and colleagues.
2. During these days just be only focused to listen and understand everyone's perspective. Do not to react.
3. If you come across or find yourself in an argument or unhealthy discussion. Best thing is to try to avoid those discussions at that point of time.
4. Do not try to win over an argument or discussions. This is the first reason of failure.
5. Avoiding the discussions alone cannot be done at all the time. So first think yourself as a highly positively motivated person and then work to speak in a way in which all the involved person's be benefitted.
6. If you cannot talk in a way where everyone gets benefitted. Speak out softly even you know someone gets hurt.
7. The main thing here is to talk very softly and calmly even when you know the other person hurts.
8. Understand, In most arguments speaker's tone plays a major role than the content itself.
9. You can convey a hurting statement in decent manner with a calm tone
Or
You may hurt with a decent statement in a harsh tone.
10. Choice is yours, how to handle people.


This made a big change in my personal life or in my surrounding people or in the relations I make with them.

"you are already a good person but you don't know how to handle yourself"

Hope this would help and make you a better person. All the best!

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It's a really good sign that you know what the problem is. Count to 3 before replying when you think you might say something rude. You can always take professional help if things are going out of hand.

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-Wake up early atleast for few days, go to a park, have a walk, sit at bench and observe people and children playing around (Avoid using your mobile phone)
- Try to avoid using social media for few days.
-Thank god every morning when you wake up for everything you have.
-Whenever you want to buy anything, think twice if it actually worth to buy.
-Whenever you feel like giving up, try to give yourself excuses why you should continue that work.
This might help 😇

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Get help from professional therapist of your company.

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Lol I have reverse scenario as I am the only one who is working from home currently they are angry on me

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Try to fix your equation with family members. When you are down and out family members will pitch in but your ofc colleagues and the company you work for doesn't give a damn if you are ok or not.
You are not alone aggresiveness,anger,frustration this is all we get when we work in the wrong environment

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I was in a similar boat, professional therapy really helped me unpack some issues that i was bottling up. Covid has brought out many of our insecurities and has made us feel extra lonely. Therapy can help you figure which issues are circumstantial (and hence, out of your control) and which issues you can fix by working on yourself.

All the best.

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in office we worked..at home we ate slept and did daily tasks...but due to wfh our brain got confused due to using the same place for work and household tasks...so chill..its normal...take leaves...socialize...if its too much, switch...but dnt worry...read books to boost imagination...in the end we all have a inner child

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It's normal. You are not alone as many people tend to behave differently from what they would while they were in office. Take a break, like atleast a week. consult a doctor or travel with family if you can. You will be fine in a week. Why do you think every senior management is talking about mental health. These side effects were found in the very early days of WFH. I had it in the first phase of lockdown. I had an outburst with a VP that too in the onshore. But it was handled well by the management.

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Might be because of work from home effect. Though you work from home, work mood should not affect home and vicé versa.
Try to go to office and get the balance between both

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Sit back and relax for sometime.
Nothing is permanent so is this frustration.
Think of what you want to do in life and try to find out the way of achieving that target.
If you keep yourself busy everything will go smoothly.

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Take a leave, and start off by doing some chores that usually your family members do, even though you know how to do it, ask for help in a nicer way, this will increase your involvement with them. Though they might not figure out what are you trying to do, but after a while they will open up too and then make them realise that you need some more co-operation than ever. Make sure to complement them for their small efforts. Try to be as much involved with them as possible.

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Start Work from Office and everything will become normal 🙂

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Dm me we discuss I am also going through the sameeeeeee

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Do some meditation and control your emotions, people will automatically will talk to you by your change:)

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Same here. Journaling helps a lot. Just go within everyday . Write down what bothers you and the next day come back to it and try to understand the what and why behind it. You can evaluate what is worth your time and energy and what’s not. It’s like when you are driving , you let the crazy drivers pass on and don’t fight them .
Aaaaand download headspace - a great app , helped me a lot.
So , journaling > meditation > and workout to ease off the anxiety . Walking alone with your thoughts helps . And if you’re lucky enough to have someone in life who understands you , talking to them helps too. But it’s your work to do , no one else’s . Take care .

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