Ok, boyfriend is studying for the MCAT and he is stressing the hell out. He found out I’m gunning for more money at work and got all judgy about how I don’t “have any more credentials (degrees)...cont

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Bottom line is that he needs to respect you, which it sounds like he doesn't. Money comes and goes but a strong, stable relationship can last a lifetime. Those are built on trust and mutual respect.

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leave him

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My SO is now a doctor, went through the MCAT, medschool and residency ride. Yeah, it’s stressful and they need support, but FRANKLY this guy sounds like a monster, not just a high maintenance med student, which, FRANKLY, he isn’t even that yet. It’s a long road (minimum 7 if he doesn’t do a fellowship) before he will be making ‘doctor money’, and there are bigger hurdles than this (residency match, board exams) so I’d say get the fuck out now.

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What are the pros of staying in the relationship? How long have you been together and how long has this “bad patch” been going on? Have you expressed how you feel?

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Yo he sounds like a dick. Drop him like it’s hot dude

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It doesn't sound like he respects you and what you do. You should both want to support and encourage each other. My partner works in Social Services and has never demeaned the work I do. While consultants don't save lives, I many of us have contributed to businesses being able to stay profitable and that means jobs in communities that might not have them otherwise. In my opinion Weshould all be looking to make a difference in the world in one way or another, while being supportive and encouraging to those around us.

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How old are you? Sounds like an early 20s argument.

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OP, you're.. 23? Statistically, you're probably going to have several relationships before you find the "one." Not dismissing your history with this person, but from how you're characterizing your relationship, it sounds like you both have have a severe disconnect and it may be helpful for both of you to test the rainbow waters.

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Reading the OP updates now not gonna lie he sounds kind of awful...

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So how can I ask for more money”. He is going to be a doctor (we hope) and is incredibly sceptical that I only am dating him because of the money. On top of that he is incredibly jealous and chewed me out (not in the fun way) for not liking one of his photos on Instagram. He then will sit silently when we go out and say “I’m just thinking about a lot... stop worrying about me... this is who I am... I have really deep emotions... etc” and won’t tell me what’s going on unless I pry it out of him. He also got incredibly offended when I sought out professional career advice from a retired CEO rather then go to him.... so ladies and gents... what the fuck do I do, how do I try to decode this mess because I’m rapidly approaching my edge. I have to plan everything, cook everything, drive him everywhere, be his emotional support when he has a panic attack (had to leave a meeting last time), call him first... it’s getting exhausting...

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Uh let's not pretend anything we do compares go the schooling and training required to become a medical doctor. That being said, he's got at least 8+ years left to complete, so if you're not aligned now, not sure about y'alls future.

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It has been two Years and I am feeling like I am investing way more in this then he is, he has two friends outside of my circle of friends which I brought him in to, and he doesn’t want me meeting them “yet”. But whenever he goes to see them he starts swinging at me about how I don’t acknowledge him, a la liking the photo on Instagram, or at one point that we don’t have enough sex (at the very least once a week), he’s a bottom FYI, there are a number of structural issues with this relationship I get. But the other guys I have dated are going no where with their lives and I feel like he has so much potential. I just worry that he will never be happy, he even said that he is “not destined to be happy”, and that will drag like a lump of led around my neck.

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He is a broke ass wannabe medical student and thinks YOU’Re dating him for money. Dump his ass fast. #beentheredonethat #plentyofbottoms #byefelicia

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Alright 🐠, sit. Rep. He has been up here for a few nights now and is still not fully participating but he is interacting well with family. Will keep you all posted of any drama that ensues!

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Natural for him to take stress out on you. He probably doesn’t mean it. Be the bigger person and try and approach the problem with the understanding that he is stressed and maybe a little jealous as he doesn’t have as much insight right now in how much work YOU actually do at your job.

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Lol OP hasn't even finished writing the post and everybody saying to dump him. You guys are too much

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Partner is in Educational Leadership; drives him nuts that he has a PhD, manages 100 people and is responsible for 1200 kids every day while I have much “less” responsibility and make a multiple of his income off my bachelor degree.

Income disparity is just something he’s going to have to deal with!

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What are you looking for from Fishbowl? A place to vent? If so, vent away! But if you are looking for advice, you’ll need to provide a more balanced picture of the pros and cons of the relationship.

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Lots of reds flags, but since you’re not dead yet.... Get the fuck out... FYI... married to a successful woman and I had a tough time with my career after a lot of early success. If he’s bad now it’s only going to get worse

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Dump him. Too much drama and u don’t need that. Been with my bf through MCAT, Med school, and now residency, and never had shit like this. Nothing u wrote has anything to do with his career path/situation. It’s personality, and if u can’t get along now, chances are u won’t later either

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