Okay so, I’ve quit my job in May because of my mental health. It was a rash decision, I was in a very dark place. I’ve been attending regular therapy sessions but still feel anxious and scared as my job search is not going so well. If anyone has gone through something similar, please share your experience. I need to focus on something else.

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I’m literally in the exact same boat! Same timeline and everything. So please know you’re not alone! Am struggling every day and worried I won’t have mentally recovered enough for my next job (don’t have one yet.. but when I do). Just trying to tell myself that I will look back in years to come and be glad I put myself and my health first.

A friend gave me some good advice today - every time your brain gives you a negative ‘What if?’ e.g. “What if I can’t get another job?” or “What if this next job is as bad as the last one?”), think of one positive ‘What if?’ to counter it - e.g. “What if I find a job and it’s so much better - better wlb / less strain on my mental health / more supportive company?”, or “What if in a years time I am so much happier and healthier and am so thankful I made this decision?”

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Barely anybody even asked him about the gap. He interviewed with a number of companies including Meta before finding the perfect match. He only had one recruiter ask him & he said he took time off for personal reasons. He moved forward with interviews.

Going through this right now so don’t have a lot of advice. It’s rough but just keep trying and keep your head up, you got this!

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You too! Hopefully you get your break soon ✨

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I just went through it. It was so hard and I still have PTSD from it. Please stay positive and trying to get into a routine with interview prep and physical activity.

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PSA. Please explore short term disability/ medical options before quitting your jobs.

The stability and income these programs provide are invaluable in speeding up your healing.

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I do appreciate these comments but my claim was denied bc my “condition isn’t covered”. I won’t go into details but that’s my life ✨

Check out habitand.co - they offer small group programs designed specifically for people dealing with work stress and moments of transition

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I’m going through the same thing right now. I’m lucky I still have savings to live off of.

I’ve worked for high-growth/unicorn startups for the past 3 years and am extremely burnt out. I’m seeing doctors and finding some underlying health problems, not sure if the health problems came first or if the burnout did. It gave me PTSD, and that’s making everything worse. Every time I think about applying for a job, or even just updating my resume, my anxiety skyrockets and I feel paralyzed.

I don’t have any advice to make it better, but I’m sorry you’re going through something similar.

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Oh this is sooooo me!!! Everyone tells me its the job. But thinking about work and what will make me happy or at the minimum won't give me anxiety is making me nauseaus and I don't want to end up dry-heaving again.

This is a tough situation & i wish you the best n of luck in your job search. Next time take fmla/loa. You'll need a doc or therapist to sign off & you can keep your job with pay. Just throwing this out there in case anyone is contemplating quitting to address their mental health. Mental health is a covered illness

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I"m a single female living alone and I started a new consultant position, 100% remote end of February. The first week of May I started experiencing extreme anxiety first thing in the morning, leading to nausea and vomiting (dry heaves) can't eat and lost 14lbs in one month without exercise.

I don't know if its because I feel so isolated working my first postion remote and majority of my team is offshore and/or finding out that my lead is leaving the team and they want me to take over which I am totally not prepared for. Or change of depression medication and experiencing the side effects or all of the above. I am 2 months into the project that I do not have direct experience in the module but related experience.

I applied for short-term disability because even on weekends I still wake up wanting to vomit...even with no food on my stomach and can't work. I don't know if I should return and try to find a better project suited to my skills or leave consulting altogether and find a postion where I can go into the office....just to be around people.

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Yes.

Ditto. I left my job in February for the same reason. I desperately needed a reset. Currently looking for a job! Best wishes on your search.

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I did the same thing last year. Good for you for getting help! It was definitely hard to deal with but I did make it through by applying and not giving up on myself. It only took 4 months to find a new job. Continue to put your mental health first.

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