Okay, we live in an pet friendly apartment in downtown Chicago. I love dogs while my SO is just getting comfortable with so many of them in our apartment complex. I really really want to get one home but it might just bum him out. Any leads on how to approach this situation? I thought fostering might help.

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Offer to pup sit your friends dogs or for a neighbor (one he already knows) to get him accustomed to one.

As much as I endorse fostering, I wouldn’t recommend it for someone just getting used to dogs. Many dogs are nervous, potentially feral, many were abused and scared of men, have health issues, etc. He just might see all the negatives vs the positive.

That said, if you can get a foster puppy, vs adult dog, you might have better luck :)

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I agree with you it can be absolutely rewarding! I was mostly reacting to OP saying that SO had a fear, and didn’t want them to have a bad experience and OP loses the “we’re getting a doggo” request 😀 there’s pros and cons, and being prepared was all I was getting at! Thank you for fostering and I’m so glad you’ve had wonderful experiences

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Is it possible that your SO sees having a dog as a burden / responsibility that he does not want in his life?

Not exactly burden but some level of responsibility yes. But I don’t think he’s not okay with that. He in general has a fear

Would he be open to fostering? Temporary custody until the pup finds a furever home?

Highly highly highly recommend fostering!! I have done it a bunch of times, for the first few you should do it with the intention of not failing (goodbye is the goal). It has been such a rewarding experience and I promise while it will be hard to let the dog go, you will fall in love with every dog and eventually keep one. having repeat experiences with different dog ages/sizes personalities helped me and my SO get on the same page about what we are looking for :)

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Is he afraid of dogs in general? Do NOT spring one on him if this is the case! Not fair to the dog which you’d end up returning to the pound. What about friends with dogs? Maybe you can take care of one for a weekend if they go out of town? Again, this would need to be done with his full cooperation. He isn’t obligated to love them.
Think hard if this is a dealbreaker for you.

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