Old man got offended because me as a young asian female asked if he was in group 1 when boarding. He said sarcastically why don’t you go ahead ma’am and I did. 😒

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White male here, I've been cut off in line by multiple races and both genders. Some people are just assholes. I've found being an asshole exists across gender and race. Not to dispute OP'S experience, I think it is abhorrent.

I think we as consultants have an opportunity to be the change we want to see and treat those we interact with during our travel with common decency. Crazy, I know

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Texan American here. East / West Coast Americans are the arrogant ones 👻

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I usually ask ”Which line is this?” vs asking people directly what group or zone they are in. Found people are generally informative and pleasant in their responses

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This is the best way to ask, in my opinion!

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So because he was patient and gracious enough to let you in line and you had obviously little self awareness to realize how you had offended him, you’re trying to make it about you somehow? Lovely

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All I can say is we have very different definitions of patient and gracious. If you ever work with asshole clients you know how they can sound sarcastic without actually being offensive

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OP - thank you for being engaged in this thread, providing clarification and follow up discussion. So rare.

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Thank you D7. It was good to have a discussion.

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The way the question is asked can offend someone. I don’t think it’s anything to do with the age of the guy. This question would offend me as well. Simply because it would make me feel that the other person thinks I don’t belong to group 1. The question can be better framed as - Is this the queue for group 1?

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I see how this could be a race thing, but I think the more likely reality was that the old guy in this situation was just an asshole. As a white male, i fully understand that I’ll never have to endure the same plights as a female POC, but based on the OP description, it really just feels more like he’s a dick who is probably living a generally sad life.

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Sounds like labels are very important to you. Did you (young, Asian female) ask the “old” man for any particular reason?

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How do you know he was being sarcastic? Maybe his tone was more so laughing at himself and embarrassed he was lined up and wasn’t where he needed to be cause he was group 2 or 3...

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The tone was quite obvious.

Yea I totally got your point. I just stopped giving a xxxx after while and always bringing up my alpha inner self(at least fake it) and it truly helps!!!

This comment is weird.

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OP - happens to me all the time too 🙋🏻‍♀️

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