On a big zoom call this morning. Child walks in fully naked and COVERED in marker. I mean face, legs, hands, everything. Even better, I didn't hear them right away and a coworker had to let me know they were there via chat. Turned around and my kid looked like a soldier in army paint. Not my finest parenting moment since I just pushed them out into the hallway and continued with my meeting. Sharing the shame here

I’ve been working with a founder/small biz freelancing as their digital producer for a little bit. I’m having issues lately because they won’t give me a budget for content they want to make for their site/Instagram. I’m worried with the budget gate keeping that we’re going to burn bridges with contacts, especially now that we’re dipping into my personal contacts for content collaboration. Is this normal? How do I get them to give me a budget to work from?

What do you wish you had done before getting divorced? Could be anything like “tried harder” “done it sooner” “spent it all on jewelry” “opened an account in grand cayman”…

I need some interview tips, I have a virtual interview for another HR Manager position at a much larger company, in the email it said to dress for the position you are interviewing for. At my current company we are very casual Friday all week long as we are in the Non-Profit Arts Entertainment industry. Any suggestions would be appropriated.

Looking to relocate, we're house hunting right now. Which would be a better neighborhood? We're an active, child-free couple. Solana Beach or Gaslamp Quarter, or Downtown?

I filed an ethics complaint in early June, and after going up the chain and calling out nothing was done on it, and I was being gaslighted/my personal life being used to show I am the problem in early October, I met with the execs in Ethics. The initial meeting, they gaslighted me, and then tone was better in the second meeting. Now 2-3 weeks later, General Counsel wants to see me. What should I do? Should I be worried? I have sought counsel outside of the company. This is huge fintech company.

What do you do when a store manager let's a cashier.walk all over the assistant manager? Dm isn't any help. I'm at my wits end! Store manager sticks up for cashier every single time. I've offered to give that cashier my keys . I'm so done with trying to do right, only to have manager make up excuses.

Which tone do you find most important when serving a customer?

Put my 2 weeks in Monday 🥳 but I feel like my team is wanting me to complete a lot of stuff before I leave?? like new items on top of wrapping up/transitioning… tbh I wouldn’t care but I really like my coworker that they’re unfortunately going to pile a lot of my stuff onto when I leave - how do you balance helping but also being so unmotivated knowing you’re leaving? I want to end on a good note and not screw people over but also think it’s a literally ridiculous what they’re asking me to do

On a scale of one to eggplant emoji, how hard is it to respond to an email?

Is it reasonable as a copy supe to be made the lead writer on the US and global business of 2 large brands, one of which is launching, with only a senior and a freelancer with no pharma experience (they’re both great) under you? Also, your supervisor just left and won’t be replaced.

To me, it feels excessive.

Looking for some perspective: we just got a brand new $2,000 glass top 78" dining table. I asked my husband to please use a table cloth when he uses that table for d&d with his friends to avoid scratches and the loud dice on the table. He got upset that I "don't let him enjoy our stuff," that I "hate the sound of him having fun," and he says I am being unreasonable. From my perspective, I just want to preserve this expensive piece of furniture that we both love. Am I being unreasonable?

How do you deal with a partner who critiques every little thing and is just a rude person. I am looking for suggestions beyond leaving the firm as I just lateraled, so that is not an option for me. Today, he messaged me on Jabber and said “next time, don’t tell the client we are scheduling a ‘call.’ Say ‘telephone call.’ It is important to be precise.” Besides stupid critiques, he is demeaning and demands I prioritize his work. (See below)

“We treat people like people first here so I want to tell you more about the team” Proceeds to walk me through the team chart, when each person joined, when they got married, when they had kids. End presentation, nothing added - no hobbies, no personality quirks, nothing

What do you appreciate in a cold email from a creative trying to network?

What do you hate seeing in a cold email?

If you start a career at a new company and are pregnant, do you get maternity leave? I know some companies say you have to work at the company for a year

I found one of my coworker's anonymous Twitter accounts, and it has a ton of red flags involving bigotry, sexism, etc. It's a personal account, so should I mention it to HR or not?

Anybody here that few up in household where mom or dad had an affair? How did it affect your romantic relationships/beliefs/outcomes in adulthood?

~6 weeks pregnant (IVF and PGT tested embaby) and spotting again.
First time was last week. I freaked out. Went to doc, they said everything is fine.
A few days later it started again. Very light, brown.
Anyone else experience this? Reason to worry?

The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.

Hi 🐟- Are Credit shop base comps similar to PE shops?

Role: Senior Associate/middle office
Bio: 8YOE, specialized skill set, MBA, big4 background as Manager 3

I need to understand what the high level structures are like please. I recognize it’s not front office and they are discretionary.

Also, where do they typically cap the bonus (e.g., 7.5-22.5%)? Or is it more

Thank you so much in advance!

Looking for a flatmate (male) in magarpatta city, 1bhk semi furnished apartment. 9k rent.

If you were an independent PM Consultant, what PM software or tool would you use and why? Asana, Monday, or stick to Excel?

Best places to learn how to snowboard? I know how to ski, more or less, but I think learning to snowboard this winter would be fun!

Looking for a reporting BA in Mumbai (parel), finance domain. Do connect.

When you're in calls literally the entire day from 8-5, what and how do you eat?? I have to talk sporadically on all said calls.

Director Level Compensation Package. Does anyone have insight on what is typically included? Severance for instance, or bonus structure? This is for a medium size digital agency. thanks!

So... What's your utilization looking like?

Low cost ways to get UGC content? How effective are hashtag campaigns? For Instagram …

How can i get More solid Roofing leads? Or actual jobs?

Does anyone work for Eli Lilly? Had a few questions!

Made it a week so far with out any to drink. Praying for another next.

Need gift ideas that one can only buy in California. I am making a trip to CA first time after I got into a serious relationship, Bf won’t be able to come along for a reason. I want to get him something memorable. He is into fitness and health. All ideas welcome , no $ limit

How often are you having sex? I’m in a relatively new relationship, and feel a subtle pressure to have sex every day (if not more — often morning and night.) I generally enjoy it, but it *is* time consuming, and I can’t help but feel stressed by it at times. Any tips for managing misbalanced libido? (Another factor: my partner is underemployed, while I’m working FT.)

When you give someone a referral to EY, does it take awhile from them to get started with the application/interview process?

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Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

Fourth-year associate. I will soon be commuting to Midtown Manhattan to a firm that pays market. From a financial perspective, am I completely nuts to be driving in and parking? Between tolls and parking, it’s going to be close to $10K a year as opposed to the bus/train being between $2500-$3000 a year. Thing is, bus/rail is pretty reliable in the morning (in terms of availability of options), but if I’m working late service gets dodgy and I like the freedom of having my own vehicle (cont.)

Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

Should I stay or should I go? Hoping to get some insight from those that went before me. I am a 6th year call working at a top20 firm in private M&A. Two kids and am in the position (continued below)

Came here to say that I wish I could fully express to my non-parent colleagues how much their support has meant to me. I can cover for them when they have stuff so they can unplug, but I feel like they will never truly understand the gratitude when they offer to do a task for me when my kid is sick, etc. Any ideas on how to pay it forward?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

Anyone else juggling having kids at home during the winter break and trying to work from home around your SO (who is also working from home). The holidays are always SO hectic at my place and I'm feeling like a failure, my mother was a perfect housewife and I'm far from it lol. Other parents struggling with this?

Since this is an open forum where we can be honest, I've assembled a list of billable litigation tasks that can be done from a playground: Conference calls, File review, Fly on the wall depositions where your camera is off, Zoom cattle call status hearings. Any other suggestions?

Is anyone willing to share if your firm offers egg freezing without a fertility diagnosis as a benefit? We are trying to expand our benefits and would love to be able to say that others in the industry are already doing this. Thanks!

How are people managing WFH with their kids? We have a 2 year old and 5 year old and my partner is also wfh. Small condo, no nanny. It’s freaking insane and my husband and I are fighting every day....

Anybody get divorced as a young-ish associate with little kids? I think I'm on that path and really struggling

(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

We're about to have our first child and my wife and I are both as prepared as we can possibly be and panicking about anything we may have forgotten. What do you wish you knew before becoming a working parent in law?

Sometime I feel like I'm operating at lower capacity than during the height of Covid trying to navigate billables and no childcare/remote school. Anyone else feel this way? Are we just burnt out from all the working nights and weekend in 2020/2021?

My spouse has made it clear to me that they no longer support me working in biglaw and want me to find a job with more reasonable hours. They were supportive early in my career and when we had one child, but our second was born a couple of years ago and all the additional work they put in at home, the lack of family time and lack of couples time is becoming a big strain on our marriage. We are in a high cost of living city so will have to undergo a major lifestyle change if we forego my biglaw..

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Had a second baby almost a year ago now and just can’t get back into work mode. I used to be a workaholic and now can’t find any motivation in my current job. Most of it is probably sleep deprivation and feeling like I don’t have any time to myself anymore, plus burnout. Anyone go through this after having kids? How long did it last? I don’t have the option of simply quitting, but contemplating switching to a true 9-5, no-stress job, possibly out of law, while they’re young. But that’s scary.