On my first multi day trip and I'm trying to decide whether facetiming my one year old would be nice or just traumatizing for her when I'm not going to be home for 3 more days

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When my girls were little, I discovered it was better when I called in the morning. They had lots of excitement ahead for the day and probably quickly moved on. Calling in the evening before bedtime never worked out well!

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Probably traumatizing. Always make a clean break!

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When mine were little my husband traveled with a stuffed animal and he would send pictures I could share. They also slept with a favorite tshirt of his. Calls were traumatizing and disruptive. Flash forward and those favorite tshirts are going to college with my kids.

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I try not to. I focus on the work or networking or time away from home. But I’m not gone a lot of the time. I might call once if I’m gone for a long stretch — eg 3 nights. Shorter than that is not worth it.

It’s never a good time to call. The other partner is having a hectic night by themselves or trying to still fit in cleaning, bath, reading. I let them do their routine without fitting in another thing — a call to me.

I do check on and sometimes call my partner. But only briefly. I want to not come home to a pile of work after being away so I try to focus on being productive workload wise or connections wise while away.

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I regularly video call my 1 year old, and I've never thought it was traumatizing. At first she seemed confused, but now she gives me kisses on the phone.

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I’d say it’s a bit of both. When my LO FaceTimes me when I’m not home for bedtime, she absolutely cries, which is so tough to see. But I think it helps normalize mommy not being home every single night. Breaks my heart either way to be honest.

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My one year old loved it and then got bored and wandered off after a few minutes, so from my perspective it was perfect haha

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It was always traumatizing for ME. Lol. My son was totally fine and I missed him but he was totally uninterested in talking to me via FaceTime. It was never really a good time and he was having fun with his grandparents. Every kid is different though.

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Wrecking my brains over what I was traumatized by or excited with when I was 1 yo and cannot remember a thing...

I don't travel frequently, but when I do, I always call the kids in the evening. They're going to be sad that I'm gone whether I call or not, so might as well get to sing our goodnight songs and tell them I love them.

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