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One of my students is pregnant, any suggestions?

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Make sure she talks to the office about how to fill out the paperwork for when she is out. She will want the absences excused. Will someone from the district visit her home to do instruction occasionally? Will someone from her family pick up work or can work be posted online for her to do while she is out? Does she have technology and wifi at home to do work and turn it in? Get her in the habit now of communicating online so if she has a problem or question she is comfortable communicating with you through email. Make sure staff knows she might need to use the bathroom more frequently due to a medical condition so they don't hassle her. Listen but don't make assumptions about what she will/should do.

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Depending on school policies, that may or may not be enough. I know what you are saying, and I agree.

Our family took a foster daughter who was 13 and pregnant ( had the baby while 13). She was in 7th grade when she came to our family. She went to regular classes until the last couple months, then went to an alternative school a couple months (started at 8:30 ended at 2:30). After birth she had home bound instruction a short period of time, instructor came by for a hour twice week and gave work for the week. Then back to school life some normal. She’s stayed with us until she finished college and was married. Now she’s 28 years old, her son (our grandson) is going into 9th grade. Life is good for her family with another boy whose 4 and husband is a youth pastor and runs a boys and girls club. There is HOPE.

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I appreciate you sharing this story. It’s refreshing!

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Be there for her!

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Make sure the nurse know because there are a lot of resources to help the student. The nurse will inform the school social worker. They both will play important roles with the student. You will also need to talk with the counselor because she will have to do a temporary 504 she will take it to the doctor and have the doctor to fill out her part of the 504, and then bring it back to school to schedule the meeting for the 504. I don’t know if your state allow students to stay in school but our students attend school until they are ready to have the baby. Students need to continue to get that social piece of learning also.

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Great ideas but a 504 doesn't medical proof. A student can be eligible based on the suspicion of a disability

Support her as best you can. Are you looking for suggestions for something specific?

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Prayer….

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Support and diapers

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Coordinate with folks on campus…counselor, nurse, etc. After that treat her the same as you would any other student: with respect and an open mind. 😊

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Don’t ask if she is going to “keep” or “give up her baby for adoption”. Terminology should be “parent or place”. Support her decision. Does community Ed or Early Childhood Family Ed offer parenting classes in your area. If so share that info with her.

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Not really the teacher’s business unless you are asked. Be supportive, but not nosy.

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Let her go to the bathroom when she asks. Let her know that it may be challenging, but she needs to get her diploma or GED and offer support in this endeavor. Let her know what resources there are out their to help her.

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Keep bananas and peppermints for nausea. Look her in the eyes before glancing at her stomach as she grows.

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Or the doctor should inform the student on what she need to do. She and her parent should discuss what to pack for the school day for any of those pregnancy issues.. Besides teacher's should give any student any kind of meds. If something happens and she said that you, the teacher gave her tums etc. You could get in trouble.. Good luck..

I've had a few pregnant students in just a few years and overall I just try to be supportive & understanding (absences, missed work, needing breaks). Like someone above said, not nosy unless they are the one confiding, and helping connect them with the resources available on campus if they need them. A lot of the adults in their life are also making them feel pretty bad about it probably and drilling in the responsibility aspect, so sometimes it's nice to let them be excited & share some more positive & excited sentiments with them too!

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If you can do so tactfully or discreetly, you may want to find out if her family is supportive. That can make a big difference as to how much help she’ll need from the school or community.

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What to do? Tell the social worker and the guidance counselor. If there's anything specific you need to know, they will tell you discretely. Allow more visits to the restroom, maybe a quick snack and drink during class and pay attention to signs, ask if they are okay. Continue doing your job.

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Congratulate her and tell her that although it might be a struggle for the next decade or two she will be able to enjoy her grandchildren in ways that the rest of us will not physically be able to due to our relatively advanced age.

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Permanent restroom pass, extra time for assignments (within reason), and easy sitting arrangement. These are without judgement or additional stress. I don’t make the student apply for the 504. I liked helping her get the prearranged absent established idea.

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Refer to your school counselor and nurse for support and resources for herself and the baby. Get the family on board and offer services in the neighborhood.

Listen and be a sympathetic non judgemental ear, whatever she ends up doing/deciding. Connect her with any resources in the area (a school nurse or counselor may have a better idea what those are).

Support her. Help her find resources in your area that are available to pregnant teens. There should be quite a bit available. Who is the dad? He has accountability in this as well.

I appreciate you sharing this and also I am sorry to hear what happened to your student. Do your best to find out whether her family/guidance surrounds her and the type of help she might be in need of. Please make yourself available to her as much as possible in case she needs someone to talk to. By having her surrounding positive people she will bounce back and accomplish her dreams she has always desired to. I wish both of you the best.

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