One team member was very rude to me when I was explaining things to him, he keeps interrupting me, asking "yes/no" question, and seems very angry. I tried to keep my cool and I needed to stop/breathe a few times before I can continue. What is a good strategy to deal with people like this?

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“Can you hold that thought? I’m not finished speaking.”
“Tell me your concerns so I can make sure to address them, and then I’d like a chance to respond.”
“I’m sensing some frustration, is there something else going on that I can help with?”

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If this doesn’t work you need to be even more firm with them. “I’m trying to help you, and your interruptions are preventing me from finishing what I’m saying. If your questions can’t wait then let’s pause here and you can write them up for me so we can discuss them later.”

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Sounds a like very Deloitteful person 😁

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Take a hard look and reflect: are you concise or are you one of those people that takes a while to finish their point and adds too many details? If it makes sense, Try to let them lead the convo and briefly answer their questions. Some people organize their thoughts in their brains very differently and may not follow. Or call them out “I am sensing that you are frustrated. Do you have specific questions or should we regroup at a different time?”

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The latter two for sure. The first one if you're at a breaking point

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This sounds really frustrating - my observation would be that this is definitely his deficiency and you’re having to deal with it unfortunately. The only advice I can give is to not look at this as him belittling you, but as someone who is perhaps insecure / acting from a place of stress and pressure. It’s a challenge but try not to take it personally and not stoop to his level.

If it persists for a prolonged period I’d consider flagging to a colleague whether a “wellness check” might be appropriate - we all handle stress and remote working environments very differently

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What's the context of this discussion? Review? KT? Working session?

I'm not saying that rude behavior is acceptable but I've seen that in some cultures it's how they validate their understanding. I've been on both sides and I usually say - are there any other questions you'd like me to clarify before I can proceed with my explanation? Would you prefer to drive this discussion or would like to hear me out and we keep questions for the end?

Level and context would influence my direction

Just say "please stop interrupting me. We can go through your questions after I've finished"

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