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Only 6 weeks pregnant and I feel awful: exhausted, low grade nausea that doesn’t seem to subside, dizzy, lightheaded, and constant headaches. All I want to do is sleep. Preggie pop drops help only moderately. Husband is making me feel lazy for just wanting to lie in bed and nap. Do I just need to suck it up?

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Do not suck it up. You are growing another human. He should be thanking you and pampering you instead of making you feel lazy. I would stop that crap in its tracks ASAP!

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No girl listen to your body and rest! My hubs was like that at the beginning since he didn’t know any better but you should both get educated and he needs to be more supportive. I would say if you work in an office, establish ways to look/feel as less miserable as possible as you’ll need it to power through the rest of the months. You can do it!

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Any suggestions, books to help him understand? We haven’t told friends yet and I sense that his friends haven’t shared how rough early pregnancy has been on their wives… he really just has no idea. We’re the last of our friends to have kids but he really hasn’t been around pregnant women (let’s be honest, I haven’t either).

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This was me for the first trimester for both of my pregnancies ! It’s completely normal and you should listen to your body and rest!

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Yep - girl I’m at 9 weeks and I am completely useless. This is my second so my husband and I knew what was coming but it’s still hard. He’s taking on far more than his share picking up the slack and although he’s a champ, he’s admitted to me that he does feel slightly resentful sometimes (I’m not offended - I would too. We have super open lines of communication.) I’m on diclegis with zofran as a backup for the worst days and I still throw up almost every day. It’s all I can do to get through the day/keep my head above water at work. I think of this time as survival mode - we know it will end (last time at about 17 weeks) so I feel zero guilt outsourcing as much as possible. Cleaners, lawn mowing, almost every meal is delivery. It will end. You will get through this. Explain to your husband how you’re feeling and I highly suggest getting help to take the pressure off where you can. Do not just “suck it up” - this is literally your body telling you to rest, because that’s what it needs to grow this human.

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And it’s ok to drop the bar - if things aren’t done right away, etc … it’s the beginning of modifying your lifestyle to fit another human. To be fair, you are doing equal share. Your share just happens to be something he can’t do: making a human being … and changing your body forever :)

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It’s totally normal. I’ve done it three times though and confess I’ve never quite cracked the nut on how to manage it along with the demands of a consulting job. My performance inevitably suffers every time and it doesn’t matter when I’ve asked for help or to whom. Take care of yourself first and foremost and take advantage of work from home to get naps. Block your calendar daily midday for it if you can!

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I napped everyday. Listen to your body; I only felt really sick when I didn't. Experiment with different things. I had to make sure to always always et something first thing in the morning, never get too hungry, never get dehydrated. Lemonade helped with nausea for my second. My first wasn't too nauseous but wanted strawberry milkshakes.

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