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Absolutely not. As a woman who has lived on her own for 7 years and has a strong relationship with her parents, I would be appalled if my boyfriend felt my parents input was necessary to our marriage.
So basically: depends on your personality, your girlfriend's personality, her parents' personalities, your culture, her culture, her parent's culture. Every person and family is different with different expectations and traditions. No one will know better than you and your girlfriend what is right for the two of you in the context of your relationship and each of your relationships with her parents.
Varies by culture. But it's a nice way to get stakeholder buy-in before the big steerco
Yes. It shows respect and maturity. If he says no, still propose, but you did the right thing.
In this day, I would "ask for his blessing" rather than asking "for his permission". It's classy yet puts the lady as the ultimate decision maker of her life.
Just propose to the Dad. Cut out the middle man.
Yes. It's the classy gentleman thing to do. And even if after you've tried and they don't seem to respect you and still think you are shit then fuck it. Go get your girl!
As a female, I'd say no. I can do whatever I want, I'm an adult, I don't need my parents permission to do anything!
Please only do it if your girlfriend wants you to. I would have been incredibly offended if my husband had done this. I'm an independent adult capable of making my own decisions, not a piece of property changing hands.
Maybe not if she hates her Dad.
Have an amazing deck (no pun intended) to present and signed off by her parents that your go live will be smooth and should there be any issues, you have your mitigation plans in place. But yeah, stay classy.
D5 is part of the problem with this country
I asked, and I don't regret it. Imagine if you were in her parents' shoes; it'd be nice and courteous to get a heads up. Most likely, they'll say yes, unless they really hate you lol.
I didn't. I asked her mom to help me pick the ring a month in advance and asked her dad to help me throw a surprise engagement party. My gf (fiancé now) wanted her parents involved but not be the decision makers. So, involve them in the plan/process but don't explicitly say 'I want your permission'
Moms matter too. I'd be offended if my husband was ask for permission, but I wasn't (assuming we had a daughter).
I asked both mom and dad. But she's close to both. I didn't think of it as permission. More "let's all get excited". They did.
It's not a beautiful gesture- it implies you are a piece of property that your father owns. Did your husband also offer a dowry? It's an outdated and offensive tradition that should have died several years ago.
D5 - shut up.
I asked both of her parents - her father was appreciative and her mother cried. It was an awesome moment.
Would actually prefer if he didn't. Why bring someone else into the decision? I already know whether my family likes him. At this point moving it forward is between him and me