Opinions: I have self-harm scars on my arms from when I was a teenager, is it inappropriate/unprofessional to wear short sleeves and leave them exposed at the office or client site?

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I don’t have an answer to your question, but I hope you are doing well OP 💙.

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OP, I hope that period of your life is behind you and you are okay. As for being appropriate, while I would not have problem with you using short sleeves, I would prefer you not to so you can avoid questions or conversations that may make you uncomfortable. BUT, if you feel that period is a closed chapter of your life and you feel you can, and want, help others who could be in the same situation now, please use short sleeves and be open so you can ultimately help people understand that everything will be okay.

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Agree with SM1. Do what you are comfortable with. I also would not have a problem but I’d wonder what happened and not ask unless I knew 100% you’d be ok with my asking. But not everyone thinks that way. Some will just ask and no matter what answer you give, will have judged you. At the end, we’ve all got a past. Some with physical scars and some without. Don’t let your past hinder your present and future.

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In line with other folks here, I sincerely hope you’re doing ok now.

As for the appropriateness of short sleeves, I say don’t let your past dictate your future. If other people are uncomfortable, it’s mark of their character and professionalism, not yours. If your firm doesn’t feel the same way, find a better firm.

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It’s not inappropriate, but people may wonder what they are/how it happened and some may ask, and maybe you are not comfortable with that.

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Just come up with something if not comfortable. Let it breathe! Everyone has issues or mistakes, can't punish yourself for the rest of your life!

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I erased my post earlier. Wear it, own it and in my 5 years plus, no one ever asked me. Everyone has had these moments in life but we needed to feel real pain, not just the emotional pain. don't make excuses or lies for your past. It created your future.

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I don't have advice, but I wanted to say that this post and responses have encouraged me so much. I used to self harm too, and it helps to know people care ❤️

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I agree with other posts that I hope you are doing well as you continue through this part of your life.

I fee that given the impact mental health has played in our country in recent years (mass shootings, homelessness debates, military suicide rates, etc.) there is opportunity to have more dialogue on this broad topic than less. I would stress that my view is highly dependent on you being comfortable first and foremost, but if you wearing short sleeves happens to spark a conversation that could help someone else who has (or is) going through something similar, than that is a good thing. Similarly, if it could help educate someone who has never dealt with that scenario, that is also a good thing. Our past does not define who we are today but it can be an important influence. You should do what you are comfortable with and we (your collective peers and colleagues) should respect that. Best wishes

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if you're uncomfortable with the scars and don't want to be asked about them then try using bio oil. it does magic on scars. you can also use accessories to hide it. maybe a watch or a bracelet

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came here to say this

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One of my directors has selfharm scars and she wear short sleeves and tank tops daily. I haven't asked what they are because I know what they are.... and I think for you many people know what they are so they won't ask either.

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