Other staff members in my building really hate me because they view me as the “young and cool” teacher. My rules are the same as theirs I just relate better to the students. How do i change this?

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We were all a new teacher once, a few years in and the ‘honeymoon’ is over. We ‘seasoned’ teachers may roll our eyes at your optimism and energy—I assure you that it’s not hate, just jealousy over your passion!

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You don’t change anything!!! Stay focused! Continue to connect with you f people, and continue to master your profession. Do not give in to the pressure. Make them rise to your standards- DO NOT LOWER YOURS.

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I’m an old dog teacher who has been the “new & cool” now I’m just the “cool” teacher because I’m empathetic and don’t bend rules but my students are heard and respected. Yet, there are always people who are going to think you have less control, expectations, etc. because the students feel safe in your room. As long as students tell me, “This is the hardest class I’ve ever loved.” I’m okay with what other teachers think because I know the truth.

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I’m not old but I’m not fresh out of college, either. I have worked with several teachers who think they are “new and cool” but come off as “new and cocky”. We have one at our school right now. Many teachers don’t like her — not because they are jealous of her, but because she thinks she knows more about education and how things should be done.

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I find it I interesting that your assumption is that they don’t like you because you are young and cool. Honestly maybe your “I’m young and cool and kids like me better” attitude might be what they don’t like. I would not call that jealousy.

There’s a “young and cool” (in her eyes) teacher at our school right now. Some of the people that don’t like her the most are the other “young and cool” teachers. She told one teacher, who is only 4 years older than her, that she might want to use her lesson on something because “all the kids really like me and your kids might be mad that they don’t have me as a teacher, so at least you’d be trying to do the same thing as me”

See if you can take a step back and clarify what it is that the teachers don’t like. You might find it isn’t jealousy at all.

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You can, and should be a ‘cool’ teacher (and know about the things you’re kiddos are into these days)!
However, it is still so important to follow your school’s guidelines and rules! Never let them get away with something that may get them (and ultimately YOU) in trouble!

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I enjoy working with younger teachers as they bring tons of energy and new skills! Stay true to yourself.

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Keep doing you and count your blessings!

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Are you sure it’s because they think you’re young and cool? How long have you been teaching?

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4 years. I’m the youngest staff in the building and on my team.

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You don’t. Just keep being you 😃

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I don't think you need to change. They are just jealous.

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Well, I’m a seasoned teacher and I have seen the new come in. My experience has been that some younger teachers come in and stray from what is supposed to be done and they go and so there own agenda. Sometimes making good changes but often not. The only thing I can say is... I don’t think they are jealous of you. I think quite possibly that you may not be respectful of what they have to offer you. Please try and “check” yourself” and ask yourself ... am I being a no-it-all? Am I respecting those ahead of me? Because quite often... that is NOT the case.

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Do what you do and forget them. Be a team player, but don’t change who you are and how you relate to students.

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Don’t change! Remember your why.

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Don’t change this.

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I think every new teacher that has come to our school has made some snotty condescending know-it-all comment about what all the other teachers are doing in staff meetings and never seem to understand what they did or why it was so insulting. The most recent new guy told our entire staff that he felt like we (all the other teachers except for him) weren't putting students first. He had no idea that the comment was inappropriate or incorrect or that he was barking up the wrong tree.

Also, I worked in an alternative education venue for a few years and the biggest thing I learned is how accurately students can peg the teacher and reflect back to the teacher the feeling or emotion or idea that they know that teacher wants to hear, especially if it's controversial or causes teachers to be pitted against teachers.

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Smile, capitalize your i’s (😁), and if they can’t see that you are coming from a place of care and heart, ignore them. Teachers that genuinely love students and want what’s best for them-no matter the age-end up grouping together. In the classroom 40 years now with school buddies of all ages.

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