I am about to meet my bf's parents who r frm different cast- culture all together. I m Hindu Rajput n they are Marathi Brahims.Although his parents said they are fine with marriage but i can sense they are not actually happy. They are taking it ahead just for the sake of it.Does this culture difference matters a lot after marriage.??
In-laws not liking me will be a problem after marriage.? What should i really focus on?? Is getting married be good idea in such scenerio ?
I haven’t involved my mom in wedding planning much because she stresses me out. But today, I took her to my dress alterations appointment and she left pissed because I didn’t let her take pictures. She said I wasn’t creating the sweet mother daughter experience she had hoped for but that’s just not me. I even bought the dress by myself in the first place. Anyone else struggling with pleasing their mothers during wedding planning while staying sane?
Who uses Class Dojo or Remind? I would like to set up my computer classes on one of these for parent communication. Which one would be the best?
Hi ladies! Very transparent post!, today is rough! I try to gentle parent my 3 old son but he doesn’t listen! Only does when I have to raise my voice, take away something, or mean mug 😩😩
My daughter is the total opposite. She actually listens and is growing into an emotionally intelligent and stable kid.
I feel exhausted with my son to the point that I get frustrated because I don’t have time to recoupe or unwind. Any advices, tips?
How long does it take to get over ptsd from being in a toxic micromanaging environment?
I was a top biller and top manager at a large staffing company for five years and was treated like a child. The place was crazy. Six months into my new role I’m still scared to request PTO or afraid that my boss would be mad if she found that I took an afternoon break to walk my dog.
Moms, did having daycare at your gym help you to go more often? Did the environment help?
Hubby thinks that we can workout at home (peloton, weight bench, online classes, jogging stroller) or in our community gym & pool. But I'm excited to join a local sports club with lots of amenities (classes, squash, tennis, swim) and 2.5 hrs daycare / day.
I'm remote so getting out of the house occasionally would be nice, plus give baby some exposure. Baby will start full time 9-4 daycare soon though.
I think I finally figured it out. I finally see the matrix for what it is. I’ve finally realized that the relationship between me and firm leadership is like the relationship between a nerd and the hot girl in school. I keep waiting to be noticed. I am overjoyed to do extra work as long as it makes her (leadership) happy. I skip lunch so I can get some quick deck ready so she can find a new boyfriend (client). I ignore all my friends and family who try to tell me how toxic my relationship is. 🤷🏻♂️
Any good baby moon recommendations and the best time to go? Currently 12w based in Washington DC area and starting to plan. On the fence about flying right now with Covid numbers, but considering places where masks are still mandatory for air travel (I.e Germany, Portugal)
Moms, would you recommend international travel with 2-3 month old in early 2021 if the COVID situation improves? My family is not able to travel for delivery and I know I am being selfish, but I really want to spend part of my maternity leave with my parents and family. This will also be a chance to spend a month with them, which is super rare given we never get leaves that long! Anyone been this mad? Is it my 30 week hormones messing my brain?
Any fish living in Naperville? Walked around there today and seems like an amazing place to raise a family, however I’ve heard the area can be a little stuck up / pretentious. Would love to hear a real take / if this is true
Do any of you stay with your current job bc of the flexibility you’ve earned over the years? I’ve been at the same company for ten years and am SO READY to make a change but I’m scared to give up the flexibility.
For example, my 3 and 1 year olds were home with me all week because daycare had to shut down. I did as much as I could, joined calls and met all deadlines but I also stepped away a lot during the day to pay attention to the kiddos. I’m scared if I go somewhere new this wouldnt be ok.
How long did you keep your baby sleeping in your bedroom? I know the guidelines but anecdotally sounds like very few people follow them for practical reasons…
Hi moms! I’ve been wanting to leave my company for about two years now but held on for my recent promo. Now my partner and I would like to get pregnant stat. I realize that is not guaranteed to happen on the first or even 10th try. Should I continue to look for a new job and try conceiving at the same time? Mat leave is important to me- I want to make sure I’m protected and have pay. Anyone been here before? What did you do? Anyone find a new job while pregnant and negotiate mat coverage?
What are peoples thoughts(pros & cons) of living in a Garden Condo 2500 sq ft(with basement) for a family of 3(1kid) until the kid goes to college.
Or is it better to move to a single family home to give kid more space, big backyard etc. ?
Are you keeping your kids home from school/daycare at any sniffle or cough? Our preschool policy this year is "any sign of illness". If my kid gets the sniffles, it's inevitably 7-10 days. With three kids this can drag on for weeks, and i am struggling.
Texas is coined a football powerhouse, but I’m having a hard time finding teams/events for my elementary school student. Can anyone point me in the right direction in the loop or in the Galleria area? Bonus points for facilities/areas in the loop where Black boys and men play/gather. I’d love my son to have that sense of community as he’s the only Black kid in his class, and we haven’t met many Black families at the closest local park to us. Black is not a deal breaker though! Please share.
If I declare PAN of my father to my company for HRA. But I do not transfer rent to my father ..
Then Does the rented income reflect in my father's PAN while filling ITR????
Thinking to take a trip with my baby when she’s 3.5 months old. Just to get out of the cold. Bad idea?
A parent of one of my students told admin she thinks it's irresponsible that I won't be grading over Christmas break. I let the students know to get any work they need graded in before the break and I'll get it to it during our workdays in January. Apparently that's not fast enough for her 🙄. Is it wrong that I'm sort of pissed off by this? Should I say something?
Hi ladies, I'm in my mid 40s and I think I'm entering peri. I currently have a Mirena but I should replace it again soon, but one more will put me into my 50s(!!) and I was wondering if anyone here knows that they're in peri or menopause without having periods. Is there blood work or something to check? I definitely do not want to have another child accidentally. I've got 5 more years until my youngest is in college and don't want to start over again.
$GME is it too late?
I was interviewed at EY UK on 7th Sep. It was quite smooth. Since then I haven't heard anything back from them though interviewer claimed SLA to get back with outcome of interview is 48 hours. On portal it still says I'm in hiring team phase. It was level 1 interview.
Should I take this delay as rejection?
66 members already! For those of you currently working a 12 step program, if you choose, share below your addiction and your length of sobriety. Perhaps that’ll get some good Q & As going
I’m a first year associate (I have been here a month and a half), what am I giving for Christmas to others in the office and who should those others be? Thanks in advance!
I graduated during Covid with a double major in business administration and business management with a minor in marketing and magically ended up in sales because I needed a job. I’m about to take a data analytics course to make an attempt to break into that field. I’m currently looking for a mentor to help guide me during this time. Also, if anyone is willing to look over my resume and give me tips on how to make it more presentable for recruiters in DA that would be very helpful. Thanks
For those that applied to grad school, when did you take your GMAT and how long did you spend studying?
What’s more prestigious: working at Deloitte or working at one of the FAANG companies? Which one is more lucrative?
What should I expect in the nonprofit world for Manager of Website Systems Administrator?
They didn’t put a salary range but said it’s a new role salary is based off of their recent“HR Compensation Survey”
Hi EY GDS friends,
What is the maximum fixed compensation for Rank 44 Consultant position. What is the fixed compensation range offered by EY in your experience. Will be helpful during my hr discussion.
Also do we have to complete 1 year with EY GDS to be eligible for hike. If I join in January 2022 will i be part of the appraisal cycle started from June 2021 to July 2022 on a prorated basis. Looking forward to your answers. Thanks
should an art director put a radio spot in their portfolio? I worked on one recently that I'm proud of, I came up with the concept my cw partner wrote all the script, It doesn't has any visual obvs so not sure if I should put that in
On Monday I asked IBM HR for counter offer. I shared counter offer too but I haven't heard anything. I called but she said will need 3-4 working days. Just a thought, Should I start communication over email? Because whatever we had discussed is verbally.
Looking to switch in Boston area in analytics field. Open to all industry. Please let me know if you would help for referral.
Anyone ever trade in a watch when buying a new one? I have a newish Rollie sports model but want a Patek, have saved up, and the dealer offered to trade in to soften the blow. How do I ensure I’m getting the best value for my trade?
Guys, Pls suggest I have joined epam on 1st Dec, while submitting proofs i have to declare in income from previous employer but i haven't recieved tax computation sheets from my previous employer yet My deadline is nearer , pls suggest what can i do and how to declare this section EPAM Systems
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Do any moms have advice? It’s been a long time that I have been feeling unhappy….annoyed easily, waves of sadness, not feeling enough, low energy, and trouble sleeping among other things. I don’t have a diagnosis but I think I may be depressed. I just started seeing a therapist last week and since I started to have slight panic attacks? It was really scary, I was overcome with a sense of loneliness and I didn’t want to be in my head….I had to tell myself that I was okay and everything (cont.)
The company I am interviewing with is very slow in progress. It is almost a month now and I still have another round of interview...feeling anxious as I wouldn't able to leave until end of October. I am in public accounting. Is it bad (burning relationships) leaving so close to busy season?
Recently I had an emergency that required me to leave work around 10am on a Thursday to take my 5 year old son to the ER. I let my manager know he was going to be admitted and I wouldn’t be at work the next day. Friday morning I get a text at 8:05 asking if I’m coming to work. Not, how’s the little one? You guys okay? I never miss work, ever, and this felt like a complete slap in the face. I’ve wanted to quit for a while, but this is the icing on the cake. Should I say something to my manager?
Hi all. First pregnancy and I just failed my glucose test and so have gestational diabetes. Feeling like a complete failure. Any words of wisdom??
How do you combat imposter syndrome especially at work? I grew up in a mentally abusive house where I was never good enough (smart, skinny, pretty,etc.). I’m in therapy and she’s big into positive affirmations but it’s not tackling the little voice in my head that tells me I’m too stupid for the job that I worked for. I’m curious to see what others have done
Consulting and successfully being a mother to two young kids seem to be mutually exclusive
I couldn't keep a nanny the entire 2021 - longest one stayed 5 months. We tried doing it all ourselves but I was even more tired ALL the time - snappy with the kids too.
I decided to get an Au Pair. Just when I thought I could finally tell my teams that I have help, it's not working out.
Staffing has suggested an internal role for a while. I'm supposed to be going up for Director this year. Thoughts?
I’ve been back from Mat Lave for 6 months and recently sat down to meet with my new Supervisor to discuss future opportunities for advancement and express that I’m hoping to have a salary review soon.
He told me he agreed I was undervalued when reviewing my comp and mentioned a few times now that my maternity leave was a factor in me being underpaid - what do I do I feel heartbroken and discouraged? I feel so stuck - I love my work but how can I feel ok every day knowing this?
New mom here experiencing some burn out that is affecting my home life. I work for a fun brand and love the work I do, but I’m feeling overworked and under appreciated lately. We also just moved our office into the city and, although I only need to go in 2x a week, I can already tell the 1+ hour commute will get old. I’m considering jumping ship and going for a safer, boring job for better work-life balance, but am scared I will miss the fast-paced environment. Anyone go through this?
We are in the process of hiring a nanny to come in from 8am-5pm three days a week while I WFH. What is an appropriate number of paid sick and vacation days we should offer?
Where do you find babysitters? Sittercity wants a subscription apparently but it also feels weird to pick someone off the internet vs someone with a connection.
Working moms in advertising - genuine question - what is a (relatively) low stress role in advertising or at an agency / consulting firm? I can’t do always on, high-stress jobs like account / client management anymore and maintain my mental health (I have small kids).
It’s taken a LOT of self honesty to admit this. Maybe I’ll change my mind in the future, but for now, I need a change to be fully present in my personal life and mentally healthy. Thoughts? Ideas? Thank you! 🙏
anyone else exhausted by the constant dialogue around mental wellness in the workplace this year? Never ending emails/about making space, mental health benefits, etc. I’ve already received 2 emails this week, one was resent to me asking to brainstorm more ideas support the team through “tough times”. I think I’ve been good about checking in with teams, pushing back on clients as best I can, making accommodations for those who’ve asked for them - but the incessant pressure to manage others’
Hey moms! Anyone tried to follow 12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old? How was your experience? What age was your child?
I listened to the audio book and can't decide if I should start the training of my 3 months old. Taking cara babies methodology states that it's too early to start any sort of sleep training before 5 months. Thoughts?