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Our son started daycare at the beginning of the month right as I returned to work after a very extended leave. I joined a new project on my 2nd week back but haven’t been able to contribute in any meaningful way because my son keeps getting sent home with different daycare bugs and random fevers and we don’t have family nearby to watch him, so I end up having to watch him all day. I don’t know if it’s too early to feel discouraged, but I’ve been questioning my decision to return (cont’d)

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Daycare is brutal for this exact reason. They are always sick and then you don’t have childcare. This is why I opted for a nanny and once he was 2 and I wanted him to go to school for the stimulation i had him go in the mornings but kept the nanny, and then we had a second baby. Now both are on school but I still have the nanny so we are always covered. A significant portion of my paycheck goes to childcare BUT I see it as an investment…I’ve continued to progress in my career, get raises/bonuses and am DEFINITELY financially better off than of I stayed home and also MUCH happier being a working mom. It’s only a few years and the SAHM I know still have their kids in preschool well before kindergarten so it’s not likely you would have zero childcare expenses even if you were one. If you want to go back to work you should. Just spend whatever you need on a nanny, which shouldn’t be an issue since sounds like you don’t depend on your income to cover household expenses. In the long run you will be better off.

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back to work. We’re lucky enough that I don’t have to work if I don’t want to, but I was kind of looking forward to having a life outside of being a mom and having more intellectual stimulation than just chasing our son around all day. I guess I’m just looking for any advice, words of encouragement, etc.

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Part of it is seasonal! Hang in there. Could you hire a sitter to keep your sanity?

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When I was a new mom my sole goal was to “stay in the game”. This daycare adjustment period will be temporary, your career is not. Forgive yourself for what you’re perceiving low performance and keep on! More tactically, did you consider getting a nanny instead of daycare? That mitigates a lot of the sickness issues due to less exposure (though zero is not desirable) and also nanny will still work if baby is sick (usually).

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It will get better! Take it one month at a time. Everyone knows you’re doing what you can during this transition and you’ll start feeling like your old self soon enough!

Feel like I need to add here that the daycare transition and illness is also temporary! Lot of nanny moms here, but I had my best year ever at work post maternity leave using daycare. The first few months were tough and I didn’t have full mental clarity until I weaned from breastfeeding but after that it was game on. Especially during the pandemic, having my kiddo outside of the house during the day has been everything for me.

Look into the possibilities of a sitter for some of the time. Otherwise see what you can do with a flexible schedule (working more after bedtime) and if you want to keep working see if your husband can contribute some to the childcare for the sick days too, even if you end up taking the brunt of it. My 6 month old just started daycare at the beginning of the month. After being there only 3 days she came down with COVId and was out for 10 - and no one wants to come help watch a baby with COVId. So I totally get you momma! They say the first two months are the worst, and then add to it that it’s the winter and we’re getting hit from all sides! Good luck!

If your daycare isn’t willing to deal with any behavior may need to explore switching daycares or hiring a nanny. Nannies are expensive for one, good value for two kids, but most of all they work when kids are sick so you’re more free to do your job. Their having a job is dependent on you having a job, so you’re all aligned to make your work days as seamless as possible

You just described why we have a nanny. If you can afford it it’s the way to go

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