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put Kendra Lust’s pic in your room wall, no one will come then.
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We will
When I was doing WFH, I kept scolding my parents to not come in my room but in a funny way. Then what I did is I edited an email from the CEO in such a way that it reads like calling everyone to the office. So I didn't get any questions from anyone and moved.
Don’t get emotional for your parents . Just focus on your carrier and move on from your home. When you will be old , neither your parents and nor your brothers will be there for you.
So, be practical and move on to your base location and work for your own growth
@Legato Health Technologies 1: I think people start commenting here without even reading the scenario. If you are the only priority of your parent then yes you should do everything for them.
In the discussion author mentioned the problem of joint family , where his 2 married brothers are being giving privileged over him and the author is being taken for granted by everyone in the family where everyone comes and sits in his room and he is not able to focus at his work.
Author parents have no medical problems and neither his parents have problem that no one else is there to take care for them.
So, pertaining to this scenario it was suggested to him that don’t get emotional fool and focus on career.
Don’t compare everything with your scenario.
Pro
If you have married brothers then let them handle old parents.
You should worry about moving only when you are single kid
Bro switch jobs and let the company force you out. Your parents are lucky they have 2 brothers to take care of them. And your also lucky because you have 2 brothers back.
Whatever you do, respect your brothers and parents… because when you grow older you will regret if you didnt.
As you said, joint family so mom and dad should be fine. Just move out and incase any emergency or anything then no place is too far these days, take a flight and reach there.
I would suggest you to rent a place or a shared office and work from there but somewhere near your house. Remember, family is important. ❤️
I have a plan to help you
1. Inform your family casually that you've changed project.
2. Setup random meetings and speak work related stuff even with yourself or a colleague. Do this for a week or two.
3. Once your family starts noticing that you've been spending a lot of time in meetings, that's when you talk with them that you need some privacy.
4. Considering you're ready to move to a base location, rent out a small 1bhk near your home. You'll have privacy and you're close to your family
Bro, I'd suggest moving out, considering that you've genuine frustration and also that there are already brothers+bhabhis who could look after your parents. Talk to your brothers and parents and sort this out for sake of your mental peace ☮️. All the best
There is some ancestor property also. They are every other drinking and fighting with every one . Even my mom day also. My mom day is not agreeing to come with me leaving them .
Rising Star
@OP dude stop posting your family issues here again. If it is out of context keep it once, you seem to be like a kid who needs everything and crying for every small things. Grow up man, take your own responsibility and come back home after growing up. People taking your undue advantage because you seem to be naive.
Looks like we need to learn how to set boundaries with family. That's why most folks move out of home as they get older.
Dump your parents and just go, or maybe ask them to shift too
Rent a room near to your house for work. You will have privacy and can work without any disturbances. Many of my friends do that.
Bro get married soon, it will solve all your problems asap for sometime
Company?
Bhai go & work frm some place else...I hv similar problem like u & m dying fr wfo...
So I hv decided to take WeWork membership near my home...will go & check out this weekend...
If you hadn't said that you don't want to go bcz of your parents, I would have said just lie to your home saying that they made WFO mandatory and get some peace. I guess what you need is some alone time / ME time. Just try hybrid work some time(3 days in office and 2 days in home + where you want to spend your weekend) and see if it makes you any better.
Chatayi lagao bhai ke liye . Eska dard bhi suna suna sa hai
Then buy a new home for you
This is a real issue with the middle class. Even I am kind of in the same situation. I have decided to move out.