Over COVID, my boyfriend moved to Miami. Every time I come visit, all of his friends make me lose a LOT of hope in relationships. It is wild the things I’ve seen here. This weekend I found a Plan B, and after blowing up on my bf, he went through 4 friends that it may belong to. I do believe him in it not being his, but am I crazy for thinking it’s just best to step away for a bit? This Miami thing is a lot and if literally ALL of his friends shady in their relationships, what are the odds?

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Sorry that you’re going through this. More than likely it’s his Plan B and if his friends are shady, he’s going to be put in tempting situations, especially in Miami. I love in Miami, but mainly for the partying lifestyle.

Why did he move? Were these friends from before or new friends? Does he show other shady behavior when you’re long-distance?

At this point you should probably protect yourself and go get tested and ask yourself if you want to put up with this distrust…it’s not going to get any better without a lot of hard work.

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Best to get tested. And then evaluate whether you want the next years of your life to be like this.

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Trust your instincts, they are probably right. Miami is wild. Why did he move there if you are somewhere else?

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I’ve heard the phrase “you are the company you keep” and I think it rings true for most people. There’s a huge difference in my opinion between maybe your bf having a childhood friend who may act in ways he doesn’t condone but still being friends and having a whole group of friends who engage in shady activities. I also think too that the emotional energy involved in being in a relationship with someone you don’t trust (and not due to past issues with other relationships but due to their behavior) is just never worth it, especially long distance when a lot can be hidden, when you can and deserve to be in a relationship with someone you fully trust. It sounds like your gut is telling you something’s off and I think it’s right.

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Agree with this about the friend group! Especially since they are new friends

I am from Florida but moved away for college and moved back and lived in Miami/FLL for 8 years. The clubbing thing was fun in my 20s but trying to settle down was a nightmare. The guys there are terrible and most of the people I knew in relationships cheated or were totally shady to their significant other. Not only that, it was hard to find people I had anything in common with being in Corp world as everyone seemed to party like they were still in high school/college. I ended up moving away and couldn’t be any happier. If you found plan B in his apartment then it’s probably his. And if you don’t enjoy who he hangs out with when you visit don’t waste your time.

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