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With reference to creating a tax saver FD for tax exemption under Section 80C for FY 2022-23, what is the last date by which we need to create the Tax Saver FD and upload it as investment proof on IBM Tax declarations portal?
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Sorry that you’re going through this. More than likely it’s his Plan B and if his friends are shady, he’s going to be put in tempting situations, especially in Miami. I love in Miami, but mainly for the partying lifestyle.
Why did he move? Were these friends from before or new friends? Does he show other shady behavior when you’re long-distance?
At this point you should probably protect yourself and go get tested and ask yourself if you want to put up with this distrust…it’s not going to get any better without a lot of hard work.
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Best to get tested. And then evaluate whether you want the next years of your life to be like this.
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Trust your instincts, they are probably right. Miami is wild. Why did he move there if you are somewhere else?
I’ve heard the phrase “you are the company you keep” and I think it rings true for most people. There’s a huge difference in my opinion between maybe your bf having a childhood friend who may act in ways he doesn’t condone but still being friends and having a whole group of friends who engage in shady activities. I also think too that the emotional energy involved in being in a relationship with someone you don’t trust (and not due to past issues with other relationships but due to their behavior) is just never worth it, especially long distance when a lot can be hidden, when you can and deserve to be in a relationship with someone you fully trust. It sounds like your gut is telling you something’s off and I think it’s right.
Agree with this about the friend group! Especially since they are new friends
I am from Florida but moved away for college and moved back and lived in Miami/FLL for 8 years. The clubbing thing was fun in my 20s but trying to settle down was a nightmare. The guys there are terrible and most of the people I knew in relationships cheated or were totally shady to their significant other. Not only that, it was hard to find people I had anything in common with being in Corp world as everyone seemed to party like they were still in high school/college. I ended up moving away and couldn’t be any happier. If you found plan B in his apartment then it’s probably his. And if you don’t enjoy who he hangs out with when you visit don’t waste your time.