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That is tough! From what you've said, there are no real indications of a serious problem, right? So this is more about your mind spinning up scenarios with dire consequences than it is about specific medical issues? Firstly all parents ( I think) get hit by those moments of "what if" - disease, car accident, kidnap, abuse... Any and everything that could go wrong. My best answer is to mitigate the risks that you can. Good health insurance, preventive care, diet and exercise, etc. But at some stage you have to accept that you cannot control for every risk. If you are frozen by possible disasters, you will not be able to be present in the moments of her life that matter. I suggest mindfulness and meditation to help you tame the "chattering monkey" of your brain if it spins you fruitlessly and constantly into horrific disaster scenarios

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Parent to parent, I can honestly say that I loath Google these days. The simplest of symptoms can turn into cancer or paralysis. One thing I would say is monitor their attitude and personality. When our little guy is not feeling well his smile and appetite are the first things to go. If it is just a cold, he usually bounces back quickly and powers through. I hope this helps.

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Dear FBers...This became a real valentine's day post for me. It is filled bit love, sympathy and empathy. Thank you for providing your support even though i dont know who you are. At least, i know that there are good people out there still

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Maybe you're feeling guilty because you're schedule doesn't allow for time. That said, you MUST make the time. Set boundaries between work and family. Spend time with you child and when you see they are healthy normal child you'll probably calm your anxiety. I totally understand the position you're in so not trying to be judgmental.

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^what ac1 said. Sound like the illness anxiety is more a symptom of feeling guilty about not spending enough time with her. You need to make time. They will never be this age again and if you don't make a change the damage will be done. Good luck op.

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Wife's a peds RN at the Johns Hopkins ER, the burden of knowing too much can be crazy. Feed your child a good diet, make sure they're getting age-appropriate sleep, provide a safe home and make sure they're getting regular check ups. That's about all you can do. For you, you will get past it, just takes a little time.

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Serious like chronic? My sister had an issue two years ago and was losing a ton of weight. You def have to combine google and doctors/specialists. Docs couldn't figure out what it was, but it would've been a lot less stressful if my parents had the previous knowledge to ask informed questions. None of us knew what to expect or how to handle the situation at the time. Hindsight is 20/20.

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Wow OP. That is crazy. And not to discount the seriousness of that situation, it is incredibly rare so I hope that doesn't re-stoke your anxiety about illnesses, etc. As you said, just make choices that you can be happy to live with as it relates to spending time with your children.

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It does also lead to feeling guilty as i am always busy at work and not able to spend enough time with her. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I hope she is ok

Thank you very much for wonderful responses. I really hope my worries are tied to my working hours which is really easy to fix. I will do it and hopefully things will be better. At the same time, i will make sure that she is healthy. I think it would also help decrease the anxiety.

Today, daughter of really good friend has a epileptic seizure. They took her to the hospital and found out that she has a brain tumor. She will be going through an emergency surgery this Wednesday. This and my worries that i articulated before made me realize again every second is precious. Keep your loved ones close and treat them with love and joy.

@BCG1 life is really interesting. Thanks for your message

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