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Parents, my 3 yr old toddler have delayed speech, while he communicates what he wants e.g. I want to go pee, I want water etc. He also seem ok with following directions but doesn't responds to any questions even simple basic yes/no questions. What we realized is if we ask a question, he responds by repeating same words e.g. do you want banana he will say banana, if he doesn't want it then will not say anything. We are getting him evaluated but wanted to learn from other parents. Any experiences?

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I am not an expert but based on my experience with my two kids, I can say that it’s pretty normal. Kids learn fast from other kids. Am sure with this pandemic, their interaction with other kids are very limited to zero . In such cases, parent should interact with kids a lot . Also , this is a common issue for those who speak on their mother tongue at home and speak in English with kids. Kids listen to everything even without us realizing and this dual language really hinders with the progress.

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I have twins. One was far worse than you describe. He had no words and would just cry in frustration or point. Happy kid otherwise - made eye contact and laughed but also obsessed with cars. (Would sit for hours watching the wheels). We worried something was wrong or he was autistic (note: he might have high functioning Aspergers - not sure.). His twin brother had what I would consider advanced speech at the same time so it was doubly concerning (because I wasn’t comparing to “normal” was comparing to “advanced”). We got speech therapy for the non-verbal kid. This helped so, so much! Sure it helped my son - we did stuff with him like pat his back every time we said a different syllable (apple was two taps, banana was three - in time with when the syllable was spoken), we would over-articulate our speech - I’m sure this helped him go through the processes that lead to speech a bit faster than the pace he was originally on without intervention. But it helped us parents as well too. First, it made us realize the very large range of normal. Sure, he was behind and we couldn’t understand him - but he was trying to communicate and interactive (when not looking at the cars…) so was just on the other end of the bell curve . Two, it helped us feel less powerless to help him. Even if what we did - did nothing - we felt better that we were doing something/anything to try. Third, it helped us realize that a lot of this is personality dependent. That one - years later - is the smartest person in our family (by far…think AP Calc BC as a sophomore with a 5 on the exam , perfect grades yada, yada) - but still doesn’t talk much. He could care less what brands he (or you) wears, has nearly no personal possessions (doesn’t care), and would get bored if you wanted to discuss the local gossip but would be quite interested in having an engaging and lively conversation about the differences between communism and socialism or what led the the fall of (insert your favorite long-dead historical leader here). He is the flip side of his twin brother who could give two craps about (insert your favorite long-dead historical leader here) but would love to hear the local gossip and talk brands (especially shoes and cars!). Anyway, there is a wide range of normal. If you asked me when they were two which of the two boys would excel at school and which one would languish - I would have gotten that guess really, really wrong.

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See if he can get evaluated by early intervention. It helped us identify gaps and give him relevant therapy. My son went through same and is diagnosed now and getting required therapy. Be strong and everything will be fine.

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My relative got diagnosed with speech apraxia and autism. It’s a challenging experience. He turned 5 and he has limited vocabulary. Understanding kids weaknesses and being patient is key. Keep talking to him and have him try. If it doesn’t get better with age, please consider special Ed schools.

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Same with my niece 2 years ago. She is 5 now. Early helped quite a lot.

OP- in the same boat, have a 3.5 yr old boy. He qualified for an early intervention/ Pre-school program and I am also getting him enrolled in a park district program too this year, hopefully things will change with him. I think in general the kids are having a delayed growth pattern due to the social isolation pandemic brought. Hang tight, things will fall in place.

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My son was exactly same as you described and started actual conversation by 5. Its pretty common here because they don't have many people to talk like we have in India don't worry he will pick up in few months then ge will be unstoppable

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Seems like your son is doing much better than my cousin’s son who’s 4, doesn’t speak even that and doesn’t maintain eye contact etc, he was diagnosed with mild autism and going thru therapy. Hope your son doesn’t have any problem, it’s just a matter of time before he speaks like most. Just follow professional guidance.

I second this^^^ getting involved with a speech therapist I think it best. With proper care he will be fine. I’d start with your primary care physician and then see which specialist to talk too. Best of luck 🙂

My younger son didn’t speak a word / syllable nothing ( complete silence) for the first 26 months . He was evaluated for therapy , sign language etc . But we were always hopeful that one day he would speak . We used to take our child and the elder brother to India every year and during one of the visit he started babbling ( I guess excited to listen all cousins but couldn’t speak ) and when he came back he was speaking / babbling and got back on track since the last 14 years . Have patience !

About 36-38 months is when everything settled for him . Our son was very similar, talks to convey his needs ( like food , water etc) but now is a chat box 😀.

Can your parents or in laws come here and stay with your kid for few months? My son started speaking a lot when his grandparents were visiting us. He learned a lot by just copying his grandparents. Kids always have this special bond with their grandparents which they don’t have with their parents. Also we let him learn whatever language he learns first. My wife and I did not insist on speaking English at home.

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