Parents of older kids, how do you feel about sleepovers? To me they are annoying. It messes up my kid’s sleep schedule and he gets very grumpy and irate the next day. It’s actually has been nice this year because I can use “Covid” as an excuse not to have them. I’m just tired from work and don’t feel like dealing with the mess afterward. Of course they all rather send their kids here, so I also don’t feel it’s fair to me. Am I the oddball? Does anyone just not do sleepovers or limit them?

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If you don't like doing sleepovers, don't invite people over for sleepovers. I've never heard of anyone "sending" their kid over to someone's house to sleepover without an invitation, and if someone tried to do that to me, I'd shut that down right quick!

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Yeah, you’re right. It seems like we used to be able to just have a “play date” for a few hours but now there’s the begging at the end of any get together and yes I had a mom just ask if her kid could spend the night. Parents are different these days, most have never cared to even “check out” my house or ask my rules. Maybe because I’m a teacher they think this is the best night off for the parents. I usually treat the kids well, we go to the pool, movies, ice skating, out to eat, etc and have a fun time. I have a 12 year old only child. There’s only 2 parents who ever reciprocate. I guess that’s why I’m grumpy! Thanks for letting me rant.

I liked sleepovers as a kid, but I’m not sure I’d let my kid do a sleepover in this day and age. Hear too many weird stories anymore. And thats enough for me to say no. You don’t need covid as an excuse.

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My kids are too little for this to be an issue but I imagine future me would agree with you. We don’t like to mess with sleep in our house!

I’ve heard the new trend of sleepunders - so the kids do all the activities of sleepovers even in pajamas but get picked up and go home at bedtime. So maybe that is an option?

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I haven’t heard of that, I’ll have to check it out.

I’d be ok with an occasional sleepover but my 10 year old doesn’t seem to be ready. He’s been invited to a friend’s house to sleepover but he wasn’t interested in spending the night. I remember loving sleepovers as a kid, though!

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My kids are teens and we rarely allowed sleepovers. They never slept and next day they came home and slept all day. Instead we allowed late night get togethers for special occasions but home by midnight.

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