People >25 years old: how do you make friends? What is the key to building strong friendships at work, friends of friends, people who like the same hobbies as you? I’m a few years out of college and am really struggling to find a social circle

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Being persistent, vulnerable, good listeners, and initiating interactions. And not flaking on them. You have to keep trying.
Pick 1-3 social activities and keep trying. Volunteer, sports league, religious organization, alumni club, community classes, meetup events...what’s best will vary by your preference and city.
At work - initiate lunch, happy hour, coffee. Organize softball team or weekend volunteer day.
Friends of friends - keep inviting them to things (go for hike, trivia night, dinner party, etc). Get them to try something new with you (hot yoga, stand up paddle board lesson, new restaurant, whatever).

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McK1 and 2 are spot on. Go places you want to be: class or church or sport and strike up conversation with someone (and then again and again). Reach out later to ask someone to meet you at the pub or for coffee.

Same here and I live in NY tri state area where if you aren’t in NYC you miss out on everything

You’re not alone! All my friends who live in NYC from college are in the same boat. None of them have made any new friends since graduating.

Bumble BFF! I found a couple of friends (and my now-bestfriend) there.

The dynamics of friendships change once you graduate, everyone is now working and busy. Nobody has time to spend every day for a month together and drive around with the windows down and just mess around. I feel like that can make it seem like you have lost friends but you will adjust. It helps to have a group or organization youre involved in! What are your hobbies? You could join some clubs or maybe even reconnect with some people who live close to you but you were never that good of friends with.

Sports groups are usually a good way. I do a lot of soccer related activities, pickup, league etc. You meet people with similar likes, I.e playing, watching and then you throw in social aspects like drinking and you start hanging out more and more. Agree it’s hard when you’re not around 3-4 days a week, and have no real office culture, but just need a stepping stone that you like to find likeminded people.

>30 here and surprised how easy it’s been for me to make new friends through shared interests. I’d heard so much abt this getting harder as you get older - esp. if you’re single like I am. Good luck 🍀

Humblebrag, zero advice. 🙄

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Just be yourself, we're all the same. I am able to make friendships with 99% of the people I meet. Humor is a big part of it. Everyone likes to joke around and laugh - once you make that connection, it's already a foundation for a strong friendship.

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