People keep saying I'm being too hard on myself. That I am attractive, I am successful, I am interesting, etc.

But.

I don't believe them.
I feel like I have so much more to do. Lose more weight, build more muscle. Make more $, be cooler. Try more things, get some hobbies.

How do you know you're enough?

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As I get older I realize status is less important. So I stopped caring about comparing myself to what I should be and just focused on building family, close community of friends, and being at peace with where I am now.

I still have aspirations but the kind of aspirations have changed.

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I struggled with this a few years ago - still do these days.

James Hollis’ ‘The Middle Passage’ is a good book on midlife that I found very helpful. Brene Brown’s ‘Dare to Lead’ also address some of these issues.

You’ve got more figured out than you give yourself credit for. And guess what, most people don’t really care where you are. They’re too busy dealing with their own messes.

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Change your thinking: There’s always more to do, don’t undermine what you are and have achieved. YOU are enough even when you have to do more ! Good luck OP!

Enough for who? Are you happy with you?

Setting a goal of loving myself now seems doable. Ty :)

Also totally agreed with everything happens Now. Imma go reread the book Power of Now

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