People who have had confidence knocks: how did you get it back? I was laid off, 6M out of work, had therapy, now freelancing but I’m slow af. It’s like my brain only works in 2nd gear now.

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Make a conscious effort to remind yourself of the things you’re doing well and of how far you’ve come. Regularly take stock of your days and replay good moments, no matter how small. Our brains are built to remember negative experiences. They don’t need help noticing our mistakes; they need help noticing our victories.

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Excellent point. I heard recently on the Two Guys On Your Head podcast that you build resilience by reframing failure. Instead of I didn’t make the basketball team, everyone else is just better than me, you think I know what I need to work on and I’ll practice harder for next year. You take agency. I have been using this to reframe some negative personal feedback got at work. I’m not an unlikable person. I just need to learn how to communicate with specific people in a different way. Small, but it works.

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I was the same way post baby. Now some days I’m on and some days I really struggle to do one task. On my on days, I really try to grind and then on my off days at least I’m somewhat caught up and can cut myself some slack. Stepping away usually helps too. And therapy!

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I went through a pretty dark depressive episode for about a year and (after therapy) came out of it mentally stronger - but, like you said, initially I just felt slower at everything.

But! I learned that I wasn’t broken or something - it was just that my old ways of working just didn’t work for me anymore.

I just had to find different rhythms to get my work done and now I’m more productive again.

So, maybe try experimenting with how you manage your time, your work environment, your boundaries, and sort of start from scratch with yourself in some ways to find what “productive” looks like for you now.

You’ll get back to it, this is totally normal.

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Thank you so much for your kindness – it really helps 👏🏽😗’

It’s a muscle. Work longer and harder and really celebrate when the good stuff comes out of your brain. You’ll get back to where you were. Congrats on getting work!

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Your career and your life are yours. No one can take away your accomplishments or rewrite your interpretation of being a strong producer. Their loss, not yours.

My work was also my identity and a job loss hit hard. I realize now, it was for the best and I’m now a CCO looking to build a better agency with my learnings.

Remember, life decisions will change and grow you, but hold on to what you’ve learned and use it to strengthen your next chapter. Chin up, you’ve got this! ❤️

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You guys ♥️ partly, it’s because we were trying for a kid when the layoff happened. And now we’ve stopped that too. I just can’t think of that anymore. Weird huh. Life just got put on hold. I guess I was in an ok place for a life-changing moment and then life turned its ass on me, and I don’t think I’d be able to think about coping with a tiny person anymore/ right now. Only just back into freelance work until I feel ok to get a perm job (and I’d need parental leave $ security too). It’s crazy how much we use work to shape our identities.
I am doing therapy, meditating, running & reading all your suggestions. Love the idea of remembering your positives - maybe I’ll start a gratitude journal too. Just want this fog to lift. I used to be such a badass, plate-spinning producer. Now if I have 4 projects I feel swamped. I guess time heals 🙏

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