Pet peeve of the day: when random men on the street tell you to smile

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šŸ¤¬ I have resting frown face! Telling me to smile changes it to active frown face. And maybe active swearing at you mouth

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One time I responded, ā€œOh yeah? How about you pay my bills then."

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Just because I get annoyed when a man tells me to smile doesnā€™t mean I donā€™t care about any other issues in the world.

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Also I was just searching an aisle for my favorite whiskey. Would be creepy as hell if I was just walking around smiling šŸ¤£

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Fair enough. Whisky is serious business

It used to happen to me a lot when I was younger. I told them to fuck off.

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Accenture 1, I think thereā€™s a bit of a disconnect. No one is saying that one issue is more important than the other. And I agree with you on what youā€™re saying. No one is discrediting or not acknowledging issues our fellow sisters are facing especially those related to life and death. But what we are talking about is something that we face here on a daily basis just as getting catcalled and verbally harassed. I would complain to my girlfriends about being aggressively verbally harassed and stalked in broad daylight. But me expressing my personal pains doesnā€™t mean that I am disregarding the pains other women are suffering.

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I have ā€œresting nice faceā€ and when I am focused or indifferent I get this ALL THE DAMN TIME. I have never seen this feedback given to a guy.

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I like ā€œIā€™m not here for your entertainment, Iā€™ll do what I want"

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This will be an unpopular opinion in this thread but Iā€™m just going to put this here.

There are far far critical things regarding womenā€™s welfare that we need to be outraged and angry about than this or things similar to this. Itā€™s like walking into a burning house and complaining about the mantelpiece not matching the curtain. Guess what, the house is coming apart.

As I am writing this, Saudi Arabia is trying 10 of our sisters- human rights activists who have stood up against the state and their religion and their families for their right to be treated as human beings. These women have been tortured and abused in custody. Possibly, they will be flogged or thrown into jail for decades to come. Yesterday, Iranian Womenā€™s rights activist Nasrin Sotoudeh was sentenced to 33 years in prison and 148 lashes for her human rights work in the country.

Iā€™m outraged and appalled. And Iā€™m ashamed that I have been instagramming my Womenā€™s day marches for the last 3 years in self congratulatory tone for ā€˜having done' my part. (Iā€™m an Indian immigrant on work visa and extremely proud and grateful for the liberty the US has given me the last few years I have been here!).

But I am ashamed that in my feminist fervor to point out micro aggressions and mansplaining I have been utterly oblivious of how a vast majority of my tribe lives around the world, how she endures and possibly hopes that We- her more privileged sisters- might for a moment keep down our kombuchas and our avocado toasts to look her way and possibly, speak up for her. I did not go for the womenā€™s march this year.

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True, but there will always be atrocities. People will be dying of hunger somewhere, and I will still get annoyed if I order my steak rare and it comes well done. Doesnā€™t make me horrible, just makes me human.

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I had to wait an entire day to respond because I was so angry. I HATE WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME TO SMILE FOR NO GOD DAMN REASON.

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Totally makes the blood boil!

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Reading this made me soooo angry idk why lmao. Hate it when men do that ughhh

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Iā€™m not entirely sure this is a gender issue sometimes. Iā€™ve been told to smile and ā€œwalk more confidentlyā€ by random old ladies in the streets...:(

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I see your point and largely agree with you. But I think I saw another FB post a while ago when a woman asked if it was weird that she was told to smile more in a review and a lot of men beneath her post said they had been told that too. So perhaps context is important.

I also wonder if it could be related to things like 1. Iā€™m petite so people perceive me to be ā€œlittleā€ 2. Iā€™m Asian so people think that I am more... docile? But of course I think the gender bias is there too. Just hard to separate all these factors... :(

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Ugh... amen!!!

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So we all agree, as equals no one should tell anyone else how to act how to look how to dress how to be. These are signs of someone claiming superiority (read Power).

So all of us should stand up for all of us, anyone that is getting marginalized should have someone at their back. And if it starts with this comment so many of us get - hell yes start there. But it it grows into working on global human rights -HELL YA!

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