Pissed off a managing partner, what to do? Here is what happened:
- talked about a way forward, agreed on next steps (not clearly enough)
- I did the wrong next steps given we had apparently different understandings (realised it afterwards; no severe risks resulted)
- now he accuses me that I purposely misunderstood him and that I acted this way to gain personal benefits of it (wtf)
- doesnt believe me that it was due to failed alignmemt - insists that I am lying

How to deal with that?

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Give them personal benefits and find new job

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This is your version of the story through. You could have said something slick

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You're done. Off to KPMG you go...

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Then he is definitely gonna get banished to one of the WITCHes.

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Still wrapping my head around the 'personal benefits' comment..

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Jesus, the MD sounds like a nut job

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The fact that a Managing Partner has a direct line with a Senior Consultant to coordinate the next steps on a project is just mind boggling. A M/SM at a minimum should be sitting in between the two of you, the fact that there isn’t raises a huge quality and risk red flag, the Partner should know better.

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Yeah EY1 - I don’t know where that’s coming from. I have been at both Acn and BCG and there were very open reporting lines from MD/P to senior analyst / associates on a routine basis.

I question how much management bloat there is that EVERYTHING requires another person in the middle.

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Dude sounds cray. Find another leader to follow.

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Find an advocate whom he trusts to speak on your behalf. You might be done though.

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Well, time to apply for a job at the client and get the partner off the account.

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This made me lol, go OP

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Don’t show up to work and start living off the land somewhere in the wilderness from this day forward. Don’t waste time with a resignation letter.

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Hahahaha I had this happen to me. You’re both in the wrong:

- Communication failure
- You went way above your head
- They overreacted

Sorry to say but this MP will be very hard on you when it comes to round table discussions.

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D1, I am speaking from instances where the partner was hellbent on pulling the candidate down (seemed a personal grudge).

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Sounds like an undesirable person to work for IMO

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A month/year from now this won’t even matter.

Tell him, ‘Daddy chill.’

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I heard this one in my head and it was fantastic.

File a defamation suit

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Why do I feel like you’re at IBM? Lol.

I was in a very similar situation many years ago. Sincere advice - jump ship. This guy or gal seems to have an insane ego and will likely make your life miserable at the firm (no matter how large or a firm it is…a managing partner holds a lot of sway). So yes, update the resume and start looking elsewhere or join a totally different practice where he/she won’t have any influence over your career progression.

Another option is to speak with someone fairly senior as well (Partner etc.) and explain the situation and get their take on how to manage the situation. It’s important to build a strong ally base wherever you are.

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If this occurred super recently, try to pick them up for a 1:1 ASAP. Do so to LISTEN and get their POV / feedback. This was about 100% about them / their triggers or past trauma that they need to work through, and not about you (be it, ego, fear, guilt, trust, jealousy, feeling ineffective, undermined / slighted, not made a partner, frustration for repeatedly being misunderstood, lack of job security, cultural, etc — or just a bad day / other personal, etc struggles…). That doesn’t make it okay, but we’re all human.

How you handle it from here, will speak volumes of you / your potential there. Bring the calm, not more crazy. Ask what you can do now / next / in the future to recalibrate in a way that feels good for both of you. Actively listen, and send a follow up thanking them for their time, understanding, openness / transparency with you, and reiterating the next steps they identified to prove the misalignment b/t you isn’t pervasive. Ultimately allowing them to feel heard, respected, confident “you understand” and to find closure w/ the breakdown and that it won’t repeat again is what it’s about, not helping them see / agree with your side / actions. If you do feel a need to clarify anything they share, tread lightly and keep it to facts / no ppl involved - he/she saids will likely exasperate. Usually if you nip it early with empathy and professional courtesy and keep it b/t you 2 — the drama will dissipate and it will hopefully die there vs travel on to others / with you and your career…

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EY 3 — they both could have that POV. We don’t know the facts of the misalignment. Also another EY thread above says, that many review levels is not std across the board, and that’s not really relevant, as the fact of the matter is there wasn’t. So how should OP proceed without?

You would pull everyone in your chain of commend?! — that sounds like a way to make sure it becomes a big ordeal, and a bigger lack of EQ + waste of everyone’s time, without at least 1 attempt to work it out b/t the ppl actually involved.

Sounds like they have some kind of social/professional insecurity. Bounce

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I had something similar happen with a MP, they over reacted afterwards telling everyone when they we half at fault themselves. I tactfully refused to work with them again after. Made MP a couple years later with no issues.

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I hate the leaders who take things personal, dude, it’s all about the business, no one tries to go against you or unaligned with you on purpose, what could we possibly get from doing so?

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Do you have a performance manager? Talk to them, get the situation straight. They’re going to be involved if the Partner is actually upset about it.

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You've got to get out of that situation. Do you have any other same-level peers of this individual that would be willing to help soothe things. Helps aligning yourself and at a minimum getting internal perspective.

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