Planning a destination wedding but unsure that we want to have an online registry/honeymoon fund since family and friends are already spending money to be at our wedding? How do you guys feel about this? Please help :)

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I would still do it. I had a domestic destination and people still gave gifts, but still we sent a thank you for those who didn’t. (Gifts we’re appreciated but not expected. I think it’s nice to give people the option to do what they feel comfortable with. With that being said a cash fund and gifts from 25-300+ range is great because it gives people flexibility)

In my experience The majority of younger guests more strapped for money just did a card and the older well off guests gave a nice gift as well some people who couldn’t make it

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Thank you, you are right. I guess we just feel if people want to hand us an envelope at the wedding they will. Also, now that I think about it there isn’t anything that we really need (household wise) so I wouldn’t know what to add to the registry. I hate clutter and having things that aren’t really a need and just a “want” lol that I wouldn’t want ppl to waste their money.

Have a registry, but on your website page note that gifts aren’t expected

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We had a destination wedding and was super hard to get to— still had a registry and everyone gave a gift. If guests can swing the trip they won’t come, and same with the gift portion. Leave it up to them

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You sound very similar to me. We just had our international destination wedding at the beginning of the month and we felt the same way.

We ended up putting in our FAQs and our Registry on the website something to the effect of “due to the financial commitment of attending a destination wedding, your presence would be the ultimate present” and if they still really wanted to celebrate with a financial gift they can donate to a nonprofit that we picked out.

We still had about 8 people out of 40 give us a gift all in the form of cash or a check. We didn’t feel as bad about taking it then since we were already so adamant about no gifts and they decided to give us one anyway

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I love this! Thank you so much for making me feel I’m not alone in feeling this way lol. That is so great to hear, we can totally relate. I love the idea and agree if they want to, they will! So appreciate hearing your thoughts

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Thank you, you are right. I guess we just feel if people want to hand us an envelope at the wedding they will. Also, now that I think about it there isn’t anything that we really need (household wise) so I wouldn’t know what to add to the registry. I hate clutter and having things that aren’t really a need and just a “want” lol that I wouldn’t want ppl to waste their money.

I appreciate the input! You’ve definitely made reconsider. Those gifts would be lovely, such great points. Thanks so much for the honest opinion :)

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