Please let this post (if you haven’t noticed the others) be your sign to check in on people. Think about your teams for a minute. If you have someone who used to be really on top of things, and now they’re really not, it could be depression -- not whatever other assumptions you’ve made about what’s up with them.
Does anyone have suggestions for how to professionally ask someone if they’re REALLY okay?
What does it look like to successfully check in?

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This is a great reminder. I’ve done this before and said something like “I’ve noticed you haven’t been yourself recently, is everything okay?” Or “You seem like you have a lot going on right now, let me know if you want to talk or if I can help.”

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I think it goes a long way if you can make clear up front that this person doesn’t need to be concerned about any repercussions they might face if they’re honest with you. In other words, you’re asking out of concern (not because you’re pissed about the work product) and the conversation doesn’t need to go beyond the two of you unless there is some way you can help.

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Thank you for this

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thank you for this 🥹🥹

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