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2 years? Come on! That’s not that long. Date more people. Entertain hookups (you never know what you’ll learn). Not sure your age but I doubt an associate is anywhere near the end of single person shelf life.
Agreed. Waste of time that can potentially cause emotional damage. Not worth it but power to those who enjoy them
Relationships require a connection with another person. There’s nothing wrong with you being single. Think about how you’re connecting with people, what you’re looking for in a partner and what you’re able to give/provide for a partner. It shouldn’t be superficial things. Looking like Khloe Kardashian doesn’t mean you deserve to be in a relationship, she gets cheated on all the time.
No shade… but your original post screams that you are and that your looks should get you in the door. But not everything is about looks, maybe you need to look a bit deeper and think about who you really are outside of the Khloe Kardashian body (lol)
I mentioned the therapy and lots of self help to emphasize how I worked on myself. A lot of woke in the singles bowl usually come back with ‘how Attractive are you’ so wanted to pre-Empt. Sorry if I sound self obsessed.
Trust me I understand you, because I can relate to what you’re saying in more ways than one. I’m just trying to challenge your way of thinking.
Honestly, So many people are single. Being single doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. So you can cross your T‘s and dot your I, but there’s no guarantee that you’re going to meet the right one for you when you want to. And finding ways to poke holes in your self esteem by asking other people why you’re single is not being nice enough to yourself. It takes time, effort, and opportunity. And even then, there’s so much that goes into finding a successful relationship, you don’t want to rush it. You want it to be right. Two years is not long at all. Don’t look at all the great things about yourself and second guess them because you’re single. Being single is normal. Not wanting to be single is normal too girl.
Don’t give up on it if that’s what you want. Sometimes you have to love on yourself a little harder.
You’re right thank you. I’ll focus on loving myself as you’ve said
Maybe the fact that you’re comparing your body to Khloe Kardashian instead of just being confident because you’re you?
I saw that you initially wrote that you love the way you look… but you deleted it? I think it’s okay to love how you look but I’m just letting you know it’s not everything, and you might be missing out on a key issue that’s within.
Do you have friends you’d talk about this to? They would know you a lot better than strangers who have nothing to go off of other than how you see yourself (which probably isn’t how others see you). If you actually are decently attractive, gainfully employed, then I’d assume it’s something about your personality or how you interact on dates. Have you ever been in a relationship? 2 dates/month doesn’t seem like very much either. Do you only want to go on 2 dates/month or that’s how many you get?
Just love yourself more and give credits to all the work you've done for yourself. Most importantly, be patient ✨❤️
You're single because you haven't settled for your match yet. You may be an above average woman, but if you're trying to get commitment out of the Brad Pitts and Tom Bradys, you're going to go nowhere. Could you describe your personality a bit more?
It also matters what city you are in... Somewhere like NYC will exacerbate the winner take all environment of online dating whereas you might have more luck in a smaller town/city or suburb.
Hang in there OP, there are thousands of great partners out there for each of us it's just a matter of filtering and going through the funnel. :)
A couple of constructive pieces of advice:
1) # of leads: two new dates per month sounds like just the right number to find a partner.... In about 5-10 years :) considering the probability that you'll like someone, that they'll like you back, and that things will start off without a kink, you really need to be looking at more like 2-3 dates per week if you're looking to find a partner in the next year. Do breakfast, mix them into your friend outings, doesn't all have to be a classic one on one dinner first date. Be casual abt it and have fun meeting new people. Use apps, swipe and match lots of people just be very efficient about filtering and stop talking after a few lines if it doesn't pick up like a house on fire
2) your standards, and apparent value vs long term value. Some of the best, most loving, caring, generous, commitment non-phobic partners may not dazzle you from day one as the most attractive candidate in the batch. Yet over the long term, it's there that you'll find happiness, support and real love. Could it be that you're not giving the right guys a chance because you're not looking for the real "blue chip" guys out there?