Please tell me about a time when you thought you found a partner with whom everything seemed to click, it didn’t work out, and you still found someone better 🥲 currently feeling sad about this and trying to tell myself there’s other fish in the sea, but I’m not able to believe it yet. I really came back from the first date with this guy months ago and told my friend I was going to marry this dude because of how well we clicked and got along and I thought that continued.

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My last relationship. It was amazing but to be honest I wasn’t ready. I hadn’t dealt with my own emotional baggage. Fast forward 3 years later…. I’m engaged to the most wonderful being.
The one who is for you won’t find you easily replaceable. Take your time, mourn, take care of yourself. Your person is out there and you’ll bring lessons from this relationship into your next one.

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Thank you ❤️❤️ it helps to hear all of that. And congrats on your engagement!

My last boyfriend, it was a crazy relationship! The highest of highs and lowest of lows- toxic for sure but the most passionate relationship I’d ever been in, in every sense of the word! Anyway we broke up because he was crazy and I was extremely depressed after. A year later I found the most amazing human being that worships the ground I walk on. 4 years of marriage, it’s hard at times but I love him more each day. We now have the most loving funny daughter! Growing our little family has been such a blessing. It’s hard to see past the gloomy days but there are better days when you least expect it! Stay positive and do you, someone will come along when it’s time! ❤️

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It will get better. I had a terrible breakup with a guy I saw a future with. He completely changed after a year with no real explanation or desire to fix any issues. It was the first time I was really hurt and angry after breakup. Fast forward 3.5 years and I’m now married to man of my dreams. I had a take a break from dating after breakup and really start prioritizing myself. I went to therapy as well so I could let go of the hurt. Something better is on the horizon!

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I should’ve known better than to get involved with someone who was 5 months out of a 4 year relationship. I went away on vacation for 5 days and he went on a date with another girl he decided to pursue instead. He isn’t in a position to start a real relationship, I think, but part of me wishes i never met him because now it just hurts to think about the what if’s.

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It me! Met a guy and thought he was where the buck stops. He switched up out of nowhere and it took a me at least 6 months to fully get over him. I traveled and focused on myself while relearning my worth and realigning myself with what I truly want. Currently blissfully married to the love of my life going on two years now.

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Sweetie, if I were you I’d never look back. He sounds like a waste of breath.

As for a story, when I started law school I met a guy I had everything in common with on paper: HYSP grad, similar majors, same hobbies, same sarcastic sense of humor, similar family backgrounds, same life goals, greed, politics and temperament. We spent almost every day talking about making it big and living the extravagant lifestyle. I thought he was my perfect match. A year later, we got engaged. Six months later, I learned that we had one difference:
I won’t hit people, no matter how angry I got. Left him, sued him, won, moved on.

I spent the next three years dating around until I met a guy who was nothing like me: a state school grad engineer with an upbeat sense of humor and very different hobbies, background and temperament. Turns out he was exactly what was needed to keep my stupidity in check. We’ve been married now for 4 years, two kids. I wouldn’t trade him for all the gold in the treasury.

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All of these amazing love stories make me really happy but sad at the same time. After so many heartaches, I feel like I don’t deserve true love.

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You deserve it and so much more. The best is yet to come and I’m sorry you have been made to feel this way. One day I hope you look back on these days with the partner of your dreams by your side and the life you’ve always wanted!

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Exactly three years ago, I went out with an acquaintance for networking drinks and we ended up clicking so well that he and I both thought that was it. A few weeks into dating, he had to have some back surgery that he was very secretive about and his recovery was slow so he wanted us to pause. No matter what I said about the situation ie relationships have to last through good times and difficult times, he didn’t want the beginning to be tough. I was heartbroken. Six months later, I was unemployed (because my firm hadn’t paid us in months) and had some health issues. BFF forced me to go out with a guy even tho I said I’m in no position to date…this guy turned out to be everything I ever wanted. He proposed after 3 months (insane, I know) and we got married on our one year anniversary. He’s truly the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so glad it didn’t work out with anyone else before him.

He wasn’t right for you. You deserve to be with someone who can hold off on dating for 5 days.

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I honestly didn’t think I’d meet anyone that would be right for me. I thought I’d ultimately had to settle. It came so unexpectedly. But what I knew for sure was that I didn’t want to be with someone who’d bail when there was a challenge. And that’s not an excuse. And you don’t want someone that moves on so fast. Not an excuse.

Also, I was 37 when i met my husband.

I was devastated after my first love broke up with me. I didn’t even realize something was missing until I met the man I ended up marrying!! I never miss my old boyfriend and my husband has all of my ex’s good qualifies plus way more good qualities that make us a much better fit. Hang in there!!

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