possible to work from home, full time, without any childcare with one child under 2? 🤡

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Possible but if you have safe alternatives, use them. Putting aside work stress and all that, from a parenting perspective I felt like such a shit mom when I tried to do it. Now that she’s at daycare I truly enjoy the time I have with her instead of feeling like I was letting her down all day when she wanted or needed more from me.
This is not to say that people to do it are bad parents AT ALL. A little benign neglect never hurt anyone, the kids will be fine. I’m just talking about how it made me feel. As a working parent you’ll feel the tension between your work life and your kids fairly often. As a working parent with no childcare, you will feel that tension every minute of the day, and I couldn’t handle that.

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No! A young child requires attention and engagement. Your work requires attention and engagement. I personally couldn’t do these two things at the same time. Some mommas seem to be able to - which I just don’t understand! That’s just my perspective.

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Possible? Anything is possible! Many of us did it unexpectedly during early pandemic-mode, and many would have tons of tips on how to survive (and at times even enjoy it). But honestly, I’m not sure why you would opt for that as the best option, for you or for your child, if you have other options, even part-time options. Too often you’d be in survival mode, and you and your child deserve better, if a better option exists for you!

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Soooooo hard. Highway to burnout for me.

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Yep. I do it with a 2 yr old a 1 yr old Abs I’m 5mo pregnant ✨ you can do it too mama

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I'm doing this now! I'm working full-time with my 17mo + 4yo at home 😳 Some days are easier than others but yes, you can do it! Wishing you lots of luck + good vibes!!

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Hell, no

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No.

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Im doing it. Not imposible but VERY hard. feeling tired all the time. I miss sleeping because i have to work from 9-12 pm or 6-9

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My husband and I are making it work. It’s not easy and I wouldn’t recommend it as a first, second, or even third choice. I’m super nervous about covid and don’t want strangers around (daycare and nanny out) and my MIL who’s nearby is more disruptive than anything my daughter could do.

That said, it is doable even without much screen time. My daughter does about 15-30 minutes a day (she’s 12 months) but we have a lot of other activities and toys to engage her. My husband also doesn’t have many meetings during his work day so he can usually find a break to help with feedings, diaper changes, and putting her down for naps. I set up our home office and living room so each has a play area. More often than not, we’re both juggling between keeping her entertained and making sure we don’t miss deadlines.

Key is having strong support in your spouse or whoever you live with, being over communicative with your support person (some days you’ll need to lean on them more and vice versa), planning out the things you can (snacks, lunches, etc.), and being okay with it being difficult. It’s not the easiest option but now that I’ve gotten into a groove with it, I have no reason to consider anything else and definitely won’t until one or both of us have to physically go back to work.

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It will be really hard to be productive and you will end up making up the time for it at night or weekend or you will start being delayed completing your work.

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Depends. If you do not have to be actively conducting meetings with camera open, or be on the phone all the time, and have a significant other to help, I’d say yes. It’s between the ages 2 and 5 where it gets really hard in my opinion.

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Not sustainable but doable for a period of time. Did it for 6 months with the help of my partner. We tag teamed and had the responsibility of keeping the little occupied and safe while the other took an important call. We had to coordinate daily and negotiate on this one. And I tried to avoid calls during nap time so that I could have 2 quiet dedicated hours to work during biz hours. What didn’t get done in the day had to be done after kiddos bedtime or butt crack of dawn. Drawbacks to this arrangement though is decreased productivity and the amount of screentime the kiddo got to keep him quiet during calls.

After six month though we couldn’t do it any longer and hired a nanny. Best decision I (“we”) ever made.

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It’s possible but you’ll likely feel split it two.

We did it with our 13-month-old for two weeks while the hairs as close. My husband and I routinely work 12 to 14 hours a day and it could only happen during naptime and after bedtime. We slept 2 to 3 hours a night. If you and your partner have less working hours during the day and you can trade off care during awake hours then possibly.

My experience with a 5yr old in Zoom Kindie -- if I could get help, and I have been searching, I imagine it would make things easier ... for my work life. Fot now, I have 6 course thru day where I need to help get her focused and online. I blocked out 10min increments on my work calendar and jump off my calls as needed to make sure kiddo is on her class calls.

It is difficult if you don't have anyone else there to support you both.

I think age is a factor, and my kid is in kindergarten, so they are learning really, how to learn.. and it is interrupted by solo tv/play time, as I can't supervise her playtime... because I am working.. plus my work days are pretty long.. 7am-7pm basically.

I tried my best to do this but started getting so burned out and borderline depressed—that i’m going to go to my mother’s house, who lives in another state, for a break and help.

Thanks everyone for sharing their perspectives, I learned so much

I have a two year old and freshly one year old. Typically we have a babysitter come to the house, but fridays are usually harder for that so I work at home with the kids and no babysitter. It’s extremely difficult! Again, I have two little ones so it may be easier with just one. But honestly, even if it’s possible, the stress is often too much for me.

It’s doable if you dont have alot of meetings or you work in a slow paced environment. I dont recommend working while baby sitting, it is another full time job. I did it for few months last yr but I was so exhausted. I felt like a horse constantly chasing work and chores at home.

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