Posting in here for some male perspective- my boyfriend and I (both 25) are planning to move in together despite him not wanting kids (I do want kids). Is this fine since it’s early or a mistake?

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Listen to what people say, not what you want to hear from them. He may change but hoping he will is probably not the best idea but then, you know him better than us. He has made his position pretty clear so if he doesn’t change it down the line, you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself. Good luck, OP! Hope it works out for you!

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Mistake. 25 ain't that young - it would be different if he said he wanted to wait until he was 30. Not fair to continue a relationship on the hopes he changes a fundamental plan for his life. There are lots of guys who know they want kids. I never dated one but my friends have 😃😃

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I would ask him for why he feels this way, but you can’t and should try to change his mind. If it’s a “must” for your life, I would let him go- you can’t compromise on whether or not to have a child

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Mistake :( don’t bank on him changing his mind. I’m sorry.

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Mistake.

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I didn’t think I wanted kids at 25. It only took a mere 15 years later to realize I did. People change 😁

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Who knows. My bf never wanted kids until he turned 36. Now we have a different dilemma, where he changed his mind and I did not. There are no guarantees in life.

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I’ve wanted kids since I was a kid. Male here. It’s the most amazing thing. I have 4. Why doesn’t he want kids? His rationale may give you a hint into whether or not it will be changeable

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