Posting this to get advise from people who have been in a similar interracial marriage situation -
I’m an Indian guy dating an American/Caucasian girl for close to 3 years. Going to be engaged soon and we plan on getting married next year. I came out to my conservative parents about it a couple of months ago and there’s been a lot of backlash.
1. My dad thinks that Americans have a fuck around culture and that marriage with an American doesn’t last for over 5 years (Insane)
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I am an Indian American and my wife is Irish American. We have been together for more than 11 years and married for 5 of those years . Here are some practical advice:
1 don’t take her to India . Have your parents meet her here .
2. Most successful Indian guys ... who are educated here and have a job here would more likely marry a white chick... that’s was my American dream 😂🤣.
3. Have a solid message for your parents and relatives : this is your life and you decide . Period !
Wish you all the best brother. DM me if you want to chat .

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White chick? Wow so dis respectful and disgusting that you think brown men only want to marry white skin, cringe

2. My mom and dad are low key embarrassed to tell relatives that my GF is a nurse. They are all about status symbols in the Indian society which looks down upon nurses and glorifies only doctors, engineers and lawyers

I’ve had so many conversations with them which basically just drain my mental energy. They’re finally at the point where they are okay with the marriage and want to meet her. But I also don’t feel comfortable taking her to India and introducing her to my parents with their stupid ass assumptions on Americans and no respect to her profession. What’s your advise on how to go about such a situation? What would be your talking points in making such conservative parents be more accepting of my GF? I’m trying to find the best way around this without completely cutting ties with my family.

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Hey OP, that’s really tough and I’m sort of on a similar boat. Extra hard when you love and respect your parents, and want them to feel good too.

I don’t have any answers for you, but a few things that have helped me cope (not sure these will help you, but just in case): 1. Having conversations about how your world is different from theirs (what you see and experience on the daily is probably different from what their decades of experience would suggest, not a matter of right or wrong); 2. Reminding them that - American, Indian, Chinese, whatever - that you’ll end up with a good woman who’ll also help you be a good son (cos that’s what actually matters, right?); 3. Reminding yourself that, no matter how much you love them, your parents will probably be gone in 25 years (maybe you’ll see them for >1 week 15-20 times?); you need to make a decision that will make you happy, not them (even if their happiness factors into the equation)

Hope this helps, good luck!

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OP maybe you need to show some more respect and empathy to your parents and handle this situation with patience and care. This is not to say their world view is right, its just limited by their experience, exposure to other cultures and maybe shock. They are clearly meeting you halfway and want the wedding and yo meet the girl. You are doing your girlfriend and your parents a disservice by just going- funkit i wont deal with your attitude. Maybe introducing your girlfriend and ensuring they get to know her as a person will get them to like her as a person.marriage is a lifelong commitment, throwing away parents who have raised you , will isolate you and your future family and regret once they pass on. Be tactful and play your cards right. And remember everyone has prejudices till they don’t.

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