Probably the wrong bowl, but my high school senior is going off the rails. Besides a therapist, any suggestions?

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Off the rails in what way? Unfortunately there are many variations on the theme and this is an especially tough time to be 18.

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TL1 is right, please be more specific. “Off the rails” could mean anything from “teen rebellion made worse by the pandemic” to “hard drugs and an accidental pregnancy.” And there could be any number of underlying causes. And how you address them, aside from therapy, could depend on your relationship with your child, general family dynamics, and everyone’s mental health history.

If you don’t want to get into details, here’s a simple question: have you tried talking to your teen? Not in a judgmental, lecturing, parental way, but like you might talk to an equal - like an adult friend you were worried about.

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