PSA: Buy a house if you are able. I spent the first 5 years in big law annoyed and upset with many things but my life has gotten so much better since I bought a house. I now have a separate office to work from and actually like working from home. I no longer have loud neighbors I share a wall or ceiling/floor with. I have an extra room for my mother in law to stay in and visit my infant child (instead of taking him to her house for visits only once a month). Also no worry about rent hikes.

3 reasons my husband is ready to be a dad, even though he’s never changed a diaper.

1. His text is so big on his phone you can see it 2 rows back and across the aisle on the plane
2. He yells at the tv analysts on cable news
3. He laughs at and makes corny jokes

Here we go, 24 weeks and counting!

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

After a 2 years of being her caretaker, my partner's mom recently lost her battle with cancer. A group of us want to get him a gift, but everything seems too personal/not personal enough. Suggestions?

I used to be a special Ed teacher and changed careers to an executive assistant at BMO after facing major burnout from teaching. Now that I’m a first time mom, i really want to work part time or even .75, but I do not want to go back to teaching right now. I am thinking of tutoring- any suggestions on private tutoring vs. tutoring companies?

Failed my last exam (Far) with a 72, lost BEC as a result, and got dumped by my bf (bc he wants to try again with his ex).

Its been a great week. I am truly about to lose it.

My husband and I are both very ready to start a family. For those who have finished their PhD while pregnant or with a young child, do you have any regrets?

All of my friends are in relationships and I’m really happy for them. I love being single, but sometimes I feel left out & sad when I see them with their significant others. I’m 25 and in no rush to get married .. how should I deal with these feelings when they come up?

Perspective check:

I'm an SA, and my fiance is finishing up her residency and loves the medical field. I make good money and have a house but I feel like the relationship and the obligations (house, family) are anchors and holding me back from living my life. I want to sell and live on the road, traveling and being free.

I love my fiance and my family but I just want to quit everything and just hit the road.

Am I being dumb?

What are people’s opinions of starting a job and taking parental leave a couple months in? I ask generally but am also curious specific to mckinsey.

Single child on H1 B in US
How do I get my old parents to stay with me without every 6 months travel back to India?

Is there any legal way to have them stay with me as long as I am here?

Tips for helping kids stay on task during zoom? Our little class (9 kids) has been doing zoom circle times twice a week but I noticed they are really distracted. Also every meeting a kid leave...

It's that time of the year when kids would be graduating and people will post pictures of their kids graduating from colleges.

Don't post unless your kid did not graduate summa or mana cum laude.

I’m really abusive to myself. The only thing that makes me happy is putting myself down. Why am I like this?

I'm the only one in my family that's single now..younger siblings have partners, parents are together, I can't help but feel sad and envious (and bitter sometimes).. 🥺

What's everyone looking for at the moment (1) someone who can help you become a housewife/husband (2) partner in crime (3) travel buddy (4) marriage (5) marriage with kids?

I'm an engineer and I love building things but based on what I've seen about Gen Z, I think I'm going to raise my kids in a less modern style. No TV, no internet, at least until a certain age.

Hopefully not too many can answer this...
How much time did you take off after the passing of a child? ...Did you go back at 100% when you did go back?

1st-year Senior Manager at EY-Parthenon. 250 base 20-40% bonus. How are my friends at other consulting companies doing? ... Just trying to get a sense of how fair this comp is.

I am looking to take the 2022 shrm-cp and have the 2021 shrm learning system. Does one year matter for studying? Any experience using old material and passing/failing?

I have worked with really amazing recruiters in the past but lately I am coming across a few below average recruiters...even from really reputable/large legal recruiting companies.

Is this happening because there are so many attorneys out there that the recruiters don't have to cultivate relationships and be professional?

I must be too old school for the new normal of ghosting in recruitment. It is a sad shame, but a reality.

Hi Fishes, is anyone here aware of Customer Statement Formatter (CSF) in Mainframes?

Feeling a little lost. Trying to pivot to consulting but I feel like top consulting firms won’t even interview me even though I went to a target school, got a STEM degree, and graduated only 2 yrs ago. Any advice would be appreciated!

How long would you expect to wait for a watch after putting down a deposit? AD took a 20% deposit on a special order piece a month ago and they don’t have a shipping timeframe. It’s an Omega special edition, so not something super rare.

Anybody looking for a freelance DTC or OTC writer? 👋🏼 Available.

Hi

Can we apply for lower designation with higher experience in FAANG companies?

How long recruiter takes to comeback after GCA round?

Is everyone in EY still working from home? And if yes for how long will EY allow WFH. Like for those not in their base location by when do they need to relocate?

Moving to Austin soon! Where’s a good place to rent a 3 bedroom unit?

Anyone find themselves apologizing for everything, even stuff other people messed up? If I’m just relaying info and that turns out to be wrong, I still am the one to apologize. Especially if it’s to attorneys or partners. Why do I do this?

Can anyone help with the L&T Smart World Planning Manager Salary range .
Fixed + Bonus ??

Looking for a referral for marketing remote position

Does anyone have any leads on any remote roles social media/content creation?

It's been 10 days i have not recvd any mail & neither my manger or supervisor told me to come to office!!

In TCS what is happening right now?

It's odd how people think engineering is only math, of course that's part of it but there is no way you can make it as an engineer unless you have an insatiable curiosity. I've met some of the most interesting people in this field

On a weekday, when can I slow down (respond in 30 mins instead of 5) or go to sleep? I’m sure it’ll depend on deal pace, but in general?

Never Google “Supra or infra” again!

I admit, as a fifth year big law associate it has taken me way too long to find a good memory devise for whether Supra or infra means “see above” or “see below.” But I found it and now I’ll share it with my other Latin-vocabulary-challenged fishies.

“Supra” has the word “up” in it. As in: see up! Boom. Done. You’re welcome.

If you had a deal now targeting signing on your last day at the firm (with the potential for signing to slip into the following week), would you stay through signing if your firm asked? Current midlevel on the deal, if that context is helpful

Do you have a relaxation room with a bed and/or massage chairs etc at your firm?

Hallelujah to MS Word for finally bringing back “add to autocorrect” for misspelled words with the right click! 😅 🤓

Do other firms have mandatory department meetings? Practice group meetings?

Hey all - first year associate here… I’ve met my hours requirement for this year (requirement is 1900 and am currently at around 2050 with billable hours - approx. 2160 with non billable admin hours) and I am just tired. Is it okay to just “disappear” during the holidays (thanksgiving week, week of Christmas) and let partners and senior associates know I am not available? At this point I don’t care about making more money - I just want to sleep, read a good trashy book, and cuddle with my dog.

4th year lit associate considering an offer at a firm ranked much lower than current firm. What sort of signing bonus can I ask for if I didn't use a recruiter? How do spring bonuses factor into this calculus?

For anyone working at a mid-size civil litigation firm, what number is too low for a salary a first year associate will earn? For example, is a $100,000 salary too low for a first year at a civil litigation firm?

4th years thinking about going in house, what kind of total comp are you being offered?

Commercial real estate attorneys — what are your hours looking like? Am I the only one doing 200+ for months or are all of you drowning?

What’s the most useful/important piece of constructive feedback you’ve received as an associate?

Is there a reason to give notice on a Friday vs. any other day of the week if you tell your firm your notice period will end two weeks from that Friday?

Experienced attorney admitted in NY about to register for the CA Feb 2023 bar exam. Have not studied for an exam in about 6 years. Please send along any tips, study guides, advice! Also, should I just take the one day version? How much leave should I ask for?

I'm a new first year associate, almost two weeks in. Have to ask: is it normal to have almost no idea what's going on? I know my teams view me as completely clueless (which is 100% accurate), but whenever I ask for an explanation/they go over something with me, I'm still left feeling like they're speaking a different language. Is it just me? Every time I do a task I get so nervous I'm screwing up big time because it's like I'm stumbling around in the dark. What can I do to improve?

You wake up during the night//can’t fall asleep because you are thinking about a case. Do you bill this?