Queer women (I don't care how you got there, if you ID as a woman, I want to hear from you), are you active in your LGBT+ employee group? If not, why?

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Yes. I’m bi and married to a man and I think it’s important both to help make a welcome workplace and to address bi invisibility. I’m the only out person at my office so I feel obligated to carry the torch

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@c1 thank you for doing that.

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No. I’m bi and engaged to a man. I am only out to my friends and family. Slowly coming out to people at work as it comes up

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Bi women are so attractive!!!😘

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@P2 I hear ya. I’m Indian too, so I become some kind of zoo animal for people if I ever say I’m an Indian bi woman 😒

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Bi indian guy here. I feel this!!

I think there’s opportunity for employer LGBTQ groups to look at how they reinforce the binary when it comes to sexuality and gender. Seems like being more queer inclusive in language and events would attract more diversity.

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The reason I asked is because there seem to be so few women showing up. For example, for our pride march, I'm pretty sure there was only one other LGBT+ woman there with me. There were a fair number of straight women supporting, which is appreciated but I'm curious why the org doesn't get more traction with women.

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I've wondered the same thing about Booz Allen's GLOBE. It seems to be white cis gender gay males. That may also just be the heavy demographics of DC consulting though

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Nope. I’m bi and don’t need people being weird around me. People always seem to have opinions about being bi 🙄

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OP, I can understand feeling there's not a lot of us representing at pride. I think many people who would join a work LGBTQ group would likely also be involved outside of work with other orgs. In my case, I always ride with my motorcycle group in the parade and would never trade that for anything. My GF also works at D and I suspect wanted to march with the firm but ended up agreeing to ride with me because it's important to me.

Having read your post, I would say if someone from work reached out to me wanting more women represented there, I'd be inclined to join her to show support!

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Bi woman married to man (also poly and dating a woman, but not out about that at work). I attend events and don’t specify if as an ally or otherwise. Used to give me heartburn, but now I just show up and let people think/ask whatever they feel comfortable with

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I'm not, but for no other reason than I'm already involved in other LGBTQ orgs outside of work and find that I'm pretty exhausted at the end of a work day. Having to attend another work thing is never something I'm excited about. Plus my client site is not close to the Deloitte building, which is where meetings tend to happen.

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Not super active, mostly because all the activities are more than an hour from me, and it’s hard to coordinate with work and childcare

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Oh thanks! I think so too 😉

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D1, wish you are from Atlanta!

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Bi woman married to a woman. Love the atmosphere and welcoming environment my company has for the LGBT community. It's definitely a boy's club in our group but hey, being the token girl is common in this company as a whole 💁

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I would guess a lot of it is the demographics of consulting

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I’m active in PwC’s group (as a cis gender male) and we also struggle to get adequate representation from other segments of the LGBT+. Thankfully a couple of our markets have lesbians as leaders but generally speaking most of our participation (and leadership) comes from the guys in the group. Yes it’s partly the industry but I do think there must be more things we can do to help increase female participation. One thing we’ve tried is to do more varied activity. Happy hours always tend to be the fallback and they get rather banal. Open to ideas from any women on this thread 😀

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The statistics vary super widely, but most studies on the incidence of LGBT show that men are 50-100% more likely than women to be LGBT. So even in a perfect world, we should expect LGBT groups to be greatly skewed towards men. Not saying that this should be an excuse to not seek other representation, just framing the discussion.

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i'm also bi and was dating a guy when i joined the firm. no one knew i was bi until now, since we've just broken up and now i'm seeing a girl. i feel like it's so hard to justify being bi while seeing a guy -- even to myself, it still feels fake (which i know i shouldn't feel that way, but i'm still working on it). so i didn't get involved with the LGBT group here until recently. it's been an interesting coming out experience since i'm out to literally everyone in my life except my coworkers 😂

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