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As a guy there’s a host of reasons this can happen. Stage fright, residual effects from the alcohol, taking antidepressants, etc. Definitely no reason to assume it’s you. 99.9% of the time it’s the guy!
Not a guy but I highly doubt he doesn’t like you. He’s willing to try having sex with you twice, he must like you at least a tiny bit. My guess is he was nervous / anxious / combination of drinking / performance anxiety and couldn’t get in the head space. It happens.
I'm not a professional or a guy, but my boyfriend had the same problem the first few weeks after we started dating. We learned that his body and mind were taking a while to get used to being intimate with a new person since he was with his previous girlfriend for a long time and hadn't slept with anyone else after that (which i thought is actually a sign of his loyalty). I just waited patiently and remembered to not accuse/ blame him. After maybe a month it was completely fine.
Probably alcohol or nerves or both
Serious question if you just “recently started seeing someone” why are you already doing the deed (or attempting to)?
And because of beliefs like that, we get a 70% divorce rate. Congratulations.
Nicotine can definitely lower sex drive, on top of that if you add excessive drinking, good luck getting him up... just tell him to stay sober and don’t touch the juul for one date night.
Also SSRIs ( Prozac, Paxil, Zoloft) can mess with it (personal experience). Other things have been raised as well. But it there can be ways around it