Quick vent: I really hate when people aren’t inclusive! I invite my roommate out all the time with my friends and we have a great time. I haven’t received a single invite back. She definitely has more friends than I do in the area so it would help me out a lot to be invited & included to form a friend group. I even tried to invite myself and still no inclusion. Ugh.

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She doesn’t like you is why

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She likes your friends? Why don’t you just ask her lightheartedly “hey I think it’s great we hang out and you get along with my friends. But I’m curious - how come you never invite me out with your friends?”

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Or she just needs time away

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You live with her which means she sees you a lot. She may just want a break and to hang out with her friends. I don’t think it for sure means she doesn’t like you. She just likely needs space. I lived with my best friend for a few years and sometimes when I was hanging out with mutual friends I didn’t invite her. I didn’t invite her bc I just needed space. It doesn’t mean I was being mean or not inclusive. I just needed some time away. She understood.

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Since you called her your roommate, it doesn't sound like you're actually friends. You have tried to initiate friendship by inviting her out. She has not reciprocated. Think it's safe to she doesn't want to be your friend. She may join you and your friends out of boredom or politeness. I don't see anything wrong with it. You can't force someone to be your friend.

If it really bothers you, stop inviting her out.

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Ya she doesn’t like you.

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To make matters worse she comes home and tells me every detail about how fun the people she was with were, how fun the night was, etc.

Some people weirdly like to compartmentalize their friends

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