Quit consulting thinking it would help my mental health. Started my new job last month and am even more depressed than before because my coworkers don’t speak to me, the work isn’t interesting, and

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Take advantage of the work/life balance this is giving you. Cook your meals, hit the gym for extended periods, pour yourself into your hobbies, spend time with friends after work. I made the opposite move (from my first job which was in industry then into consulting) thinking I’d magically get more fulfillment or something from the increased workload. Turns out the thing I missed most was my freedom.

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You started a new job in December...things don’t pick up until this month or February. Give it some time.

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I’d say wait one year and then say something. It’s more than enough time for you test it out and determine if it’ll workout or not.

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Find happiness in yourself first rather than others and a job. That’s the # one cure
Can’t depend your feelings of happiness with things or people

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This post sounds like a Partner pretending to be an analyst

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I’m extremely bored. How can I get through this job? How soon is too soon to ask to come back? I never thought I’d say I regret quitting so much 😔

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Sounds like you need to identify what you value you in a job, & try to focus on the positives.

I agree w C1 that this is a great opportunity to work out, spend time w friends and find a fun hobby. Work and life in general is never perfect and always exciting. You have to understand the core values of what’s important to you, look for something that fits or accommodates that, & be grateful. If you are unsatisfied because you’re always focused on the negative, haven’t explored what you want and how to cultivate it, or are always comparing yourself to others, you will never be happy. My two cents from having been in your shoes

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Thanks everyone for the advice. I’m going to try my best to stick with this for a year and also try to figure out what I want out of a job and what my long term career goals are. I think I relied on work previously to be my fulfillment and my social life, and it’s a hard change right now to lose both of those things.

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What is work to you? Is it your identity or is it something you do to afford the things you like to do in your spare time? It’s all about mindset

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