Rant: Is it me or is it annoying when your conversations with your tinder match feels like a questionnaire and they ask you basic things like what’s your favorite music? What’s your favorite color? Etc. 😩🙉🔫 is that the way online dating should work? Because that it feels way too forced and unnatural.

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It’s you.

You have to crank your charm to 11 when you first meet online, to compensate for not being able to smile and laugh in person.

Be genuinely unique and interesting (and a little flirty) from the very first message. Otherwise it will turn into a boring-ass job interview and you’ll probably get ghosted.

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Even the most boring interviewer can be converted with a simple flirt.

To prove it, throw me the most interview-iest question you can think of, and I’ll come back at cha with a flirt. (Just don’t fall in love with me, I am taken 😉)

Years ago, a guy from CMB once asked me on a date: "if you could have dinner with any three people living or dead, who would you choose and why?" Me: "haven't been asked that question since my college application."

I kept trying to steer the conversation back to a more natural one but he kept asking questions from a college admissions essay. Some people just don't know how to carry on a normal conversation.

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He probably thought he was being unique and clever

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Yeah sounds like the person might be trying to just get you to respond with something more than one word answers if that’s the case

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It’s actually not the case. Our conversation was flowing naturally until it became an interview. HARD pass.

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It’s Tinder. No one cares what your favorite color is unless it’s the color of the lingerie you’re wearing.

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Unlike in elementary school, where having a favorite color really does matter.

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Okay it’s me, I need to get off tinder

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I'm so glad I met my wife before online dating became a thing. I would totally suck at this.

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Are you a guy or girl

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Why don't you ask better questions then and drive the conversation?

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Get out of the conversation mindset. Too many people make that mistake. You don’t want a conversation. You want a connection. Sometimes you have to steer it that way if the other person is too shy.

Example—your prospect just fed you a boring question.
‘What do you do for a living?’
‘I’m a Senior Designer at DMBBTBWDDO.’

Somebody wake me up, that’s so boring.

Do this instead~
‘What do you do for a living?’
‘I’m a Senior Designer, and I cuddle with cute guys who rock climb.’ (The person has a rock climbing picture.)

Small difference in your answer, big difference in mood.

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Favorite color?

Run.

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Can’t remember the street. I remember my first dog, Sprinkles. My mother’s maiden name is Smith. Why do you ask?

I'm betting you are a girl. Cut them some slack. They're just guys w lower social skills. Or don't...

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I just send memes 🤷‍♂️

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Some people are better in person than online messaging. He seems sweet if he’s trying. Some guys don’t even care to try to ask questions lol.

OP - some people find it difficult to have conversations with people you don’t know through text. It’s much harder to connect than being face to face. I personally struggled when doing online dating. Would get anxiety and over analyze every text... there’s no body language cues, laughing, smiling.

But that aside, dating is essentially one big “interview process”, it’s just that some interviewers/opportunities are more exciting that others 😃

What is your favorite music though?

Reminds me of Miss Congeniality

“Describe your perfect date.”

“I’d have to say April 25th, because it’s not too hot and not too cold. All you need is a light jacket.”

People still use Tinder?

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