Real talk: why are Asians the least popular among gays? Would you date them? Why or why not? Be honest, uncensored, don’t worry about being politically correct as I want people speak their minds. Please also don’t get offended by other comments — this is a safe space y’all!

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Love this open dialogue! I was just thinking about this the other day. I realized that I have developed low self esteem and mental blocks. I moved to the states about 10+ years ago but remember going to clubs/bars and being treated as if I were invisible. 10+ years of that definitely chipped away my confidence. Like when I walk into a gay place, I have this assumption that 90% of the population there wouldn’t be interested in me and many wouldn’t be interested in getting to know me as a friend. Some of it are just in my head and some of are probably true. This has really affected the way I interact with people/strangers and I feel like I’m in this vicious cycle (because I’m probably giving off that vibe).

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Everyone has different motivations for social interactions, so my perception is that it’s a numbers game. People who want to make genuine connections, whether platonic or romantic, are out there! Any many of them could be as or more introverted than you.

Do you mean least popular amongst white gays? I don’t believe that Asians are the least popular at all. Since this is a “safe space,” we all know that black gays are the least liked in the gay community (and that’s real talk)….so there’s that

People love black culture but don’t like the black ppl “real talk,” “sis,” “no tea, no shade”

We need to learn to respect and love each other despite our differences.

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Why is this now a contest of who is least liked in the gay community? We as PoC all go through similar struggles.

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I would do him.

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I hate to admit this but as a Gay Asian myself, I’m more into White than Asians. For some unknown reason (maybe I could blame the Hollywood stereotype for decades), I find White men more attractive 😓

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I was born in Asia, grew up in the US. I don't focus on race as there are attractive people of all races. I tend to go for latin guys but if there's a connection, it doesn't matter what race the other person is.

The fact that you are asking this question makes me wonder if you have self-esteem issue. As a gaysian myself I admit we all have trauma and wanted to fit in and validated (especially by white ppl).

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I’m a white dating an Asian man btw. But yes, who doesn’t want to be validated by all and POC in general face trauma in many aspects of their lives

Hi all, I’m back now after getting suspended and want to close this thread. Some people were offended and reported me. It’s really sad

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💗 to all of you

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Korean guys are very hot

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Muscular white dude here. Been rejected by my many gaysians.

I usually go for fit / muscular dudes, and I feel like I get more unfit Asians than unfit White dudes reaching out. The fit / muscular Asians are very hard to get and it’s usually more miss than hit for me.

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Strategy& 1, they probably think it’s too good to be true that a dreamy guy like you would hit on them

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I don’t think I am the ultra hot commodity, but I do get around and have fairly decent standards. Me 30, Asian, 5’11, toned, six pack, in shape, 6 cut. Mostly go with in shape, toned/muscle, 20-35

I would say I do not want to be liked becuz of my race. Vice versus. If people don’t like me becuz of my race, honestly….not my problem.

I shared my friends post as attached a few weeks ago. That’s basically who I am

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Oh, dear. What would that look like in a person? I shudder to think!

White & toned 190 lbs, 24, 6 ft 5” & I think Asians are hot no 🧢. In fairness I in general don’t care about race, fitness and intelligence matter most to me.

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@ SC2 bae=AA, vernacular is rubbing off on me 😚

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I get where this is going, but are you mostly gathering your insights from sex apps?

I’d be happy to date an Asian guy. I’ve been rejected by Asian men as a Latino guy because I’m not hung.

Read the velvet rage for all your answers to why gay men self-sabotage themselves.

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I mean it’s a therapist with research to back his points, so not that meritless.

This is such a weird post. “Asian” is such a broad term. With the rise of k-pop and the very interesting Gen-Z, I have seen many East Asian men dating white/black/latino men. I have many white friends who have said they would date Japanese/Korean men but not Chinese as well (probably due to America’s whole anti-China thing that’s been going on for decades kind of like how some of my friends wouldn’t date Russians). I also have friends who are bottoms who say they wouldn’t be satisfied because of stereotypes but aren’t otherwise against it.

I think south Asians and southeast Asians are seen as far less desirable to westerners. I think that is partly due to colorism or whatever it is called now.

Then there are middle eastern gays who are technically “Asian,” but are very popular among white men.

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I don’t get this. I’m white and my partner of many years is Asian.

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Be hot and problem solved

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I’m white, Jewish married to Asian guy. Attracted to the culture.

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What is it about the culture that you won’t do? And what do you mean by culture eg food?

As someone else mentioned I think you need to dissect the term Asian here. I think OP is referring to East Asians and quite frankly from what I see on Instagram and here in NYC, there is plenty of white + asian love.

Now if you look at South Asians, we are basically not even in the white consideration set (even if born here and not smelling of curry). And if your a South Asian without abs, may god bless you a long and happy single life 😬.

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Got it. Yeah the suburbs are probably not the best place to meet guys

I’m a hot commodity, get into it

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Whaa? White guy here. My current boyfriend of 2 years is Asian. Before that an Irish guy, before that Venezuelan. I tend to like smaller, nerdy guys. Some people’s type (which is really just about initial attraction) doesn’t map neatly onto some races I wouldn’t read too much into it. A Dominican friend of mine who identifies as black asked why I didn’t seem to date black guys, and it comes back to small and nerdy. The ratio of small and nerdy black guys I’ve seen is small.

That said I would be creeped out if someone’s primary reason for finding me attractive was my race. Fetishizing someone’s race feels dehumanizing.

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I’m 6’3” (okay 6’4” when I’m not slouching, which is rare) with a little extra weight too, so to be fair most people are smaller than me. I’ve always met people through friends and common interests so it’s hard to say. I’ve never liked bars or apps. It feels like a meat market. I’m likely to stand in the corner and look weird like one of the people above said.

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I think the question should be why are white men considered the most desirable in Western society? Which race is least preferred is very subjective and based on anecdotal evidence.

The answer to my own question is the desire for social capital. Because whiteness is associated with beauty, wealth, power, and all things positives, anyone who wants to feel good about their position in society would go after them. This includes me.

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Cuz more btms?I heard

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