Realization: no matter what women do and where they reach, relationships will always be the main topic of discussion! I rarely see a post discussing career or life in general in this bowl! Thoughts?

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Hmm I don’t know if I agree. I think there have been some really great posts. Women coming together in support over all kinds is issues from work, motherhood, equality. I think it’s kind of an awesome group. And of course relationship talk comes into play...we’re girlfriends ;)

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I don’t think I agree either. I’ve drawn a lot of inspiration and motivation from this group - comp conversations, motherhood, how to stand up for yourself, dealing with Pervy partners at work - it makes me feel like I’m
Not the only one dealing with crap! ❤️ this bowl!

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I would always rather talk about relationships than read yet another braggy post about watches, cars, or salaries, or whiny posts about how to get rewards from some perceived injustice perpetrated by the travel industry. I might be wrong, but most of those posts have a distinctly ‘male’ vibe to them.

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I would just post my career items in the general or topic specific bowl. I do see women specific career items usually revolving around discrimination on here. I don't see the problem. Being a woman is only part of my identity.

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Realization: it doesn’t matter what is said on this thread, someone will post the same exact thing next week

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Yes! This questions comes up periodically with mean frequency of ~ once every 3 weeks

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I agree with the post above. I just went back to check my feed and of the last ~30 recent posts I see maybe 2 purely relationship themed posts...I love this bowl for all the topics it covers and the genuine care people take when responding.

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I agree with everyone above, and also think women are more open to talking about things other than work. It’s healthy to talk to a wide range of women from different backgrounds, ages, perspectives. I’ve received great relationship advice on here as well as useful career advice. The relationship posts don’t bother me at all and I’m glad women are talking about their issues somewhere and not holding it in.

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I said this same thing to my husband last week. Went on and on about how I was excited this forum existed and then it was all about relationships. And then I shut myself up because I figured people come here for these things because there are like-minded (mostly) people in roughly the same career path going through similar stages of life. It’s hard making close friends out there y’all. I moved to a new city for this job and now travel all the time. It’s the first time in my life I don’t have a really close circle of girlfriends around me. So post whatever you want on here.

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This post comes around every few months. It’s not true. There are a wide variety of topics discussed here and relationships are one of them. I find it refreshing to have all of these different topics discussed. My advice: scroll past posts that aren’t applicable to you.

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I agree, but somehow I think women tend to give more importance to relationships than deserved. that includes me. when I try to discuss things with my bf he will mostly be like,you are giving too much thought to this argument/issue.

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Yeah you’re right about that. I think we’ve just been conditioned a certain way by society to not trust ourselves or know our worth. But it takes women lifting up and supporting other women to make that change

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I view this bowl as more of advice from consultants (aka opinions I can trust), which includes work and every day life, so I like all the varied (non work) topics

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Disagree - many convos here are not about relationships. Plus, I also believe that many topics are posted to the general consulting board, you just don’t know it was a female. I believe people post here when they don’t want to be judged by male peers, and relationships is one of those topics. So why not stop judging each other and policing topics on this bowl and just support people where they need it?

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I’ve posted multiple times in this thread, and none about men, all about how to navigate work challenges. And I get very helpful responses.

But I’ve been in a committed relationship for 8 years, so at this moment a partner is not a priority for me.

But I can understand for some others that being in a relationship, having a partner in life, is a priority. And I don’t see anything wrong with that. And consulting is a demanding lifestyle which can lead women to have trouble dating, especially when older, so they want help from like-minded and similar women.

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I think we just notice the relationship posts more because they are a lot juicer

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Alternate perspective: imagine how delightful men could be if only they cared about their relationships as much as we did. Maybe we talk about relationships the correct percentage of the time, and they are the ones who prioritize incorrectly. 💁

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