Realizing how judgmental many people in the city are, and also that I've become more judgmental since moving to the city and starting my job. Anyone also notice this and have any tips on combating?

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Judge not and thou shall not be judged 😆


It’s a million times worse in DC


I don’t let it bother me, especially in this city. There will always be someone richer, better looking, thinner, fitter, younger, etc. I just focus on what makes me happier and things that are most important to me.


Yeah I definitely got like that too. Mainly as a defense mechanism because I got tired of being nice and optimistic all the time. The feelings ebb and flow so I don’t work on “combating” it per se 🤷🏻‍♀️

Start the change today and stop judging people. Combat it in others by not being defensive when you detect it. Move past it and talk about things we all share in the city (any complaint about the MTA, rent, cans or airports usually creates instant camaraderie!)

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