Recently ended a 3+ yr relationship (were both mid 20s and living together for just under 2 years) bc of him buying an engagement ring yet not proposing and waffling about our future. After 2 weeks I brought up that there’s a lot of good in us that maybe worth trying to work on (counseling etc). He wants space first and asked me to not wait for him as he sorts out his emotions and “tries to be happy again” (COVID depression and 100hr work weeks). Then he’ll decide if he wants to try again

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Anyone ever have something like a break help strengthen things? Should I see this as him pulling away overwhelmed? He told me how he wants to marry me and be with me... yet his actions and anxiety about commitment speak volumes otherwise. Am very confused and lost about whether I should hold out some hope or just fully block myself off to move on

Kindly, listen to his words. He said “don’t wait for me” that means move on. I know you miss him but it will get easier, and... you want to be with someone that wants to be with you.

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