Recently lateralled to a new firm and I have mild “PTSD” from my old firm 😶 everything from the way docs are saved on the system, file naming, email writing style, team conventions etc - I keep thinking any small mistake would get me yelled at / be at the receiving end of snarky or passive aggressive emails but people at my new firm are so lovely and far from that. I’m trying really hard to move past this and my new colleagues are probably getting sick of my questions 😂 Anyone else can relate?

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Can totally relate. I’m over 6 months in at my new job and still have some ptsd.

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Therapy helps, meds help, the passage of time until you realize no one is going to hurt you helps the most

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