Salam, I was in a 3Y relationship, it’s been few months, I live alone. Don’t have tons of friend so I find myself lonely after work. I burst in tears randomly multiple times a week and I cry out loud. I also have constant dreams of her most of the time normal dreams. I feel like I have little life left since I’m 39, I don’t have any direction in life. I try to pray 5 times and started to recite Quran. Any advice for me pls? I don’t have peace in my heart and I feel very empty inside.

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Sorry to hear, wishing you strength and healing very soon IA.

Highly recommend therapy, particularly someone who can help you with trauma-related issues. Been there myself and it was a life changer, to say the least.

This is the person who I worked with. Kindest, most thoughtful lady who takes a keen interest in guiding you through your recovery journey.

http://www.yenahu.com/

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Salaam!

I'm literally in the same boat as you.
6 Year relationship. Were supposed to get married.
Last minute while we were to speak to parents, she said she does not see a future and broke up over a text and now I see that she is out there living her life.

Feel devastated and perplexed as to how am I suffering like this, but the other person in the same 6 year relationship doesn't seem to be affected at all or want to reconcile and work on fixing things.

Have been doing namaaz, dua and zikr. Have been praying for circumstances to change.
Have my last hopes pinned on duas during the month of Ramadan..
Insha-Allah, he shows a miracle, returns things to how they were and makes it easy for us to get married.

Will pray the same for you brother. Let's get through this together..

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D2: I feel it doesn’t help to be negative about the other person. OP def try therapy and exercise and work on your self! Also listen to tafseer of the quran and that will give you sabr and make you realize whatever Allah pak has planned for you is the best and will happen in the right time

I know how that feels O.P and I’ve been there with the emotions and the whole situation. The best way IMO is seeing someone
Professional to cope with the trauma. 39 doesn’t mean anything. Plenty of women out there TBH (maybe not in the Muslim community) but Islamicly you can be with Christian/Jewish women. You need time and distance, if you are not already going through withdrawals, you will. Use that pain, channel it into something else good/positive. Promise you this much, no matter how bleak you think it is, it gets better and you will find peace. If you need someone to talk with msg me privately.

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I'm in the same boat brother. You're not alone. May allah ease this on us all.

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Can you guys reconcile :(?

Walaykum salaam, here to talk let me know if you need anything

Start praying tahajjud and see your life change immediately! Tried tested and proven!

May Allah SWT ease your pain

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