Saw a friend today who is an IVF veteran and asked her advice going into my first retrieval: “the goal is to stay married.” It hit hard. This has already been so difficult on our marriage and I’m not even on stims yet. I came home and immediately searched therapists. Any other truth bombs this weekend?

Shot in the dark here but has anyone had a septoplasty before? Just had one on Thursday and I'm miserable. I know it'll be great once they take the splints out this Wednesday but until, any tips?

Has anyone bought an e-bike? Considering buying one with my firm’s fitness subsidy, is it worth it for someone who would mostly ride in good weather recreationally/for fitness (not commuting on it or anything) maybe once or twice a week?

How do you approach the initial conversation with your doctor? I have taken a variety of both anti anxiety and anti depressants. Nothing works. I’ve been reading online and in this bowl, and a lot of ADHD symptoms really resonate with me. They have for a long time, frankly, but I couldn’t get my former provider to take me seriously when I was in college/law school. I’m hoping the context of being out of school helps, but I just want to make sure I maximize my odds of getting help (cont)

Has anyone here in India got vaccinated with Pfizer or Sputnik V?

Was just billed $550 for totally routine and in network bloodwork. Figure it's at least worth giving Aetna a call and asking why as the PDFs online don't shed much light but I'm not optimistic

Can i eat unhealthy and workout everyday?

I love cookies and cake but i also love running

Do any retail workers out there still get severe anxiety when you see someone without a mask?

Have you guys lost good friendship because you were too honest?!? I have lost so many ppl over the years that im starting to not be myself in fear of losing the new ppl I meet

Holidays are tough. It’s tough when your family outright ignores your coming out and doesn’t ask about your partner. It’s tough when they criticize you when it’s supposed to be a happy time. It’s tough wanting to feel grateful for being able to spend time with your family but feeling so hurt by them. Sending love to anyone else feeling conflicted this time of year. 🌈

My employers health insurance benefits are crazy expensive. What can I do for health and dental if I don’t take it from my employer?

Hi fishes

I heard that some of my friends are doing multiple full time jobs same time. Is that allowed? Will there be any impacts going forward? If yes what are they?

Can you please explain

Cant get pregnant after a year of trying, went for Femara + timed intercourse.. found today that still not pregnant. Losing hope - need support

is there such a thing as too much sleep??? have been sleeping a lot this week..

Anyone on anxiety/depression meds lost their sex drive? How did you deal with that? Any recommendations to go back to "normal" appreciated. I don't want to make my SO feel like I'm rejecting them but sometimes (most of the times) I overthink my anxiety and I trick myself into thinking I'm just not in the mood and idk how to manage that

Just discovered some Westin properties have workout rooms - exercise equipment in the hotel rooms! No excuse to not workout with a treadmill in my room this week 😉🏃🏾‍♀️

I'm struggling to get into a relationship. I've been trying for at least two years now (I'm in my late twenties), but I don't seem to find a man who's good enough for some reason. I want to settle down soon enough, but I'm also not rushing this or keeping a timeline, because finding the right man is important. I see so many of you guys here in long-term relationships. Does anyone have any tips? Feel free to get into my DMs.

Last week, I mentioned that I needed to take an appointment (my therapy appointment) this Wednesday at noon. I also mentioned that this is a medical appointment, and I don’t feel comfortable moving the appointment. I just received an email that I need to be available. How can I stick to my boundary?

I really aspire to be like Robin Boyd one day and help people. I know the problem is multifaceted but I wish there had been examples like her for me when I was even younger. I think if Black children who don't come from wealth were exposed to more representation in careers other than sports or working under someone forever, they'd have a better chance of making it to college or wherever they want to be and succeeding in life.

Hi Any suggestions for personal trainers in SF or where to find one? TIA

We’re rapidly losing staff and my stress level is the highest it’s been in a while. It’s triggering severe depressive and anxiety symptoms - can’t sleep, racing thoughts, extremely irritable, reclusive and don’t want to be around people, feeling hopeless. I feel like I’m going crazy, even with my meds that have worked quite well up until now. I want to say something to my boss, but I’m not even sure how to problem solve. This situation isn’t compatible with the way my brain is wired.

How you you find happiness in this pandemic lifestyle? (Time, schedule, what activities, motivation)

To those who got dogs during covid - how are you preparing to go about it when things go back to normal? I’ve been ‘leaving’ the house more while just going upstairs to my office and closing the door. What else can/should I do

What would it take for you to go back to the office assuming your company isn't making it mandatory?

I lead an amazing team of Learning professionals at a tech company. My expertise is in leadership, career development and strategy. Happy to mentor anyone looking for some insight on L&D or talent development.

Most of my bowls are currently all about lay-offs and long times in between client projects, regardless of industry/function. Am curious if we sustainability folks are feeling it as much as the rest of our businesses? Have you seen steep drops in commercial activity or do you feel the upswing in ESG continues to buck the trend?

Hi ppl,
I am Poonam, Chartered Accountant by profession. Currently pursuing Diploma in IFRS from ACCA. I have recently relocated to Delhi from Bangalore. I am keenly looking forward to work in Finance & Accounts, Financial Reporting, FP&A profiles for 2 months now, but unable to get enough referals for Delhi NCR region. Do support, I am immediately available for joining.

Guys funny but not so funny question.

Lets say people who are working for years in US and they save 100K USD and return back to India. Leta say to settle. Now will this 100K USD be converted to 23 Lakhs in India, as per PPP (Purchasing power parity) . Meaning Khatam tata bye bye!!

I am in depression and I need someone to talk

Are there any women sports or activity club to join in Dallas?

Recruiter from Deloitte reached out, offering same specialty, 1-2 levels up. Is Deloitte worth trying out as experienced hire?

Please explain the RSU refreshers at companies like Meta or Apple

Hello folks,

When do we get appraisal letter? On last day of month or it can be before last day also?

Can I take back my resignation. I have 90 days notice period. 45 days are gone. 45 days remaining. Working as an SSE in a small mnc.

Mask mandates are back :(

I make 80k currently after a promotion a year ago and am now realizing I’m underpaid. Glassdoor est 110k base with my job title in my area.
I’ve been “testing the waters” by applying to some other companies and disclosed I want 120k from the beginning & still have a 2nd interview with 2 of those companies.
I have 7 years experience in the Quality profession with 3 ASQ certifications, working on my 4th.
My plan is to bring whatever offer to my current employer with the hope they match. Good plan?

I’m noticing something & I wonder if anyone else experiencing same. Companies aren’t willing to negotiate. This is my experience, sequentially over a 2 year period. Company 1, no budge on base, yes to sign on bonus. Company 2, no budge on base, yes to sign on. Company 3, no budge on base, yes to sign on. Company 4, no budge on base or bonus. What happened to “1st offer isn’t the best”?

Cant get pregnant after a year of trying, went for Femara + timed intercourse.. found today that still not pregnant. Losing hope - need support

How did y’all decide which doc/fertility clinic to go with? It’s so overwhelming. I had a consult with one my friends sister used and started the process but frustrated with them a bit (feel rushed). I’m in LA/Thousand Oaks. Recs appreciated too.

Anyone with success IUI stories? If so, how many cycles did you try?

About to start egg retrieval process next month. Is there anything I should do to prep my body?

After taking letrozole and on the third attempt we got pregnant. We had our own struggles during this journey which included having to consult with doctors in India and getting medications shipped, performance anxiety issues for me, etc. My wife's gynecologist has recommended taking the covid vaccine at the earliest. We actually had an appointment at week 7 which we ended up cancelling. Now we are at 10 weeks and have the appointment tomorrow. Has anyone taken it in the first trimester?

Hello fishies,
Just wanted to share this in case someone else is going thru the same things as we were. This bowl has helped us over the last 3 years of TTC, so I thought I’d share our going news and what our situation was. We were scheduled to start IVF treatments last week but the appnt got cancelled and we found out yesterday that we were pregnant naturally after 3 years of TTC and 4 failed IUIs. Here was our issues; my wife has one blocked tube and she had uterine polyps which …Continued

Does anyone have any good recommendations on chemical and fragrance free soaps and shampoos for pregnancy?

10 eggs retrieved but only 5 fertilized. I am trying to do a fresh transfer. Any suggestions on things to be careful about over the next few days?

My husband and I have gone through all of the preliminary fertility testing with our RE - so blood work, Karyotype testing, baseline bloodwork and ultrasound on day 3 of cycle, HSG test, sperm analysis, and a genetic screen. Zero abnormal results found… we’re both 29 and healthy. Have been trying for about 14 months and have had 2 early miscarriages, 6 months apart. Anyone in a similar situation? Our follow up/treatment appointment is in 2 weeks, feeling anxious about next steps!

Going through IVF cycle now. Every ultrasound session costs about $800-$900 each. My firm insurance covers like $90. I need to pay the rest out of pocket. Does this sound normal? Thank you!

Cramping, moderate bleeding with a clot. 6 weeks. Any chance this is not a miscarriage? It’s not looking good

Anyone had a uterine polyp? One was found during my d&c after a miscarriage and it was removed and sent for testing. I also have PCOS and am very nervous.

What were your go-to resources when learning about elective egg freezing and IVF? Things you wished you’d known?

What are the most common side effects you felt / experienced during stims?

Looking for some advice. I'm 35 turning 36 soon. After 2 months of trying with my husband, I got pregnant. We were so happy until finding out 7 weeks later we miscarried. My doctor is telling me to wait another 6 months and keep trying. Then we would start looking at fertility and going down that route. It has been 2 months and haven't gotten pregnant (after the miscarriage). I'm thinking of setting up an appointment with fertility clinic now versus waiting another 4 months. Any advice for me?

Can you have sex during ivf?

We’re doing our first transfer after over a year long wait since retrieval. We’re both extremely anxious and nervous at the same time. We have 3 healthy embryos banked - AA girl, BB boy and BB girl. We’re just keen on a healthy child although given a choice we would like to start with a boy. How do you determine which is the best quality embryo ?